My wife is dying

Very sorry to hear this, sending hugs..sorry dont have any advise for after as this is what we all dread as careers/husbands/wifes etc.

I hope someone can e there to help :( 

Dear PTP I'm sorry to hear your news. This is devastating. I wish I could help you, or at least point you in the right direction. But I don't kni anything about this stage. 

I hope someone can help you here. This being said have you thought about contacting the Macmillan?

Hello PTP,

I have no experience but I wanted to reply to you to say how sorry I am to read your post. You write with great tenderness: your love for your wife and the grief you feel is palpable.It makes me wonder whether you find writing things down helpful (eg. keeping a journal).

As someone else has said, a phone call to Macmillan might be a good plan. Maybe the hospital chaplaincy might be helpful too. I am pretty sure that you don't have to be 'religious' to benefit from talking to a chaplain. Just having someone who listens is so helpful. And maybe in talking about how you feel, you will realise what kind of support you want to ask your friends for. Has your wife got family and/or friends nearby who can support you both?

Take care,

Elastigirl

Thank you for the various replies - I appreciate them all.

I am devastated and heartbroken to say that my dear wife died two days ago, on Monday 30th October. She was only 61 years old.

The progression of this disease has been frighteningly rapid: we were only granted two weeks between my wife's final discharge from hospital, and her death. We had been hoping for a lot longer than that. The final few days (or, more particularly, nights) were very difficult to bear.

I currently find it impossible to think of a way forward for me - but I promised my wife that I would try to carry on, so I will do my best to honour that promise, in loving memory of my dear wife.

I am so sorry to hear your dreadful news.

There are no words of comfort except to say there are people here that are thinking of you at this very difficult time.

I'm so dreadfully sorry to hear of the passing of your wife. It's something we dread enormously on this difficult journey.

I hope you find a little comfort on this forum. No words will ease what you're feeling, but am sending deepest sympathy to you at this terribly difficult time. Please take care x

I’m so sorry to hear this sad news .Sending my Heartfelt condolences to you x

regards J 

Hi PTP,

Extremely sad to hear of your wife's passing. 

You couldn't have done anything more to keep her with you longer . I hope this doesn't sound callous it's not meant to be but at least she didn't suffer for a long while. 

I had my OC operation in September and before it I said to my wife that I would rather die that day in the table then suffer with cancer for months on end. I suppose I'm a bit of a coward.

Please take some solace from the fact that you had her love and guidance in your life over many years. 

Like you've said she didn't want you to put your life on hold because she has passed away. You are rightly grieving her loss and are going to be broken hearted for months but with the passage of time comes acceptance.

You will get through this and your lovely wife and the memories you made together will stay with you forever.

My sincere condolences.

Geo

Dear PTP,

I wanted to reach out to you, in the hope that by doing so you may consider joining the forum specifically for Bereaved Spouses and Partners ,  Here I hope you will find support from others who are either experiencing similar emotions to those you are feeling now, or have, in the past experienced such a devastating loss and have found a way. 

You have my sincere condolences, as others have mentioned, there are no right words, but you are in our thoughts and if you need us over the coming hours, days or weeks, we are here for you

Lowe'