Trying to be strong but...

I was in the same position with the dude.  Its hard to get your head round it all and put on a brave face for those close to you.  You will find an inner strength to cope with things.  

I hope your meeting with oncology goes well.  

Sending love to you all - your wife will be with you every step of the way xx

Hi there Si2045

Nobody in here can answer your question about 12/18 mths as every case is completely different. Some people go on for years and others don’t. When you go to see the oncologist ask all you can and afterwards. The GI nurses are fantastic to talk to, ring them and if not there they will get back to you. I am a wife who has been supporting her husband for 3.5 years now. 
Let us know how you get on and this site is great for encouragement and advice. Reading people’s journeys does help. 
take care, steph

I too am in the same position. I am frightened. It’s like I am enjoying myself at a party and don’t want to leave. I became a grandmother for the first time this year and another grandchild.due in July. I am to be deprived of seeing them grow up.

Rotten isn’t it?

Rosiee

so glad you are going to be a grandma again. 
yes the whole journey is rotten and so very sad 

take care of yourself, Steph

Just try and keep as positive as you can as i am sure it helps. 

Hi Si

Please don't put a time frame in your mind for this disease, it gives it too much power!  My husband was advised at the time of his diagnosis that with treatment he would possibly have 1 year, without 4 months.  My husband survived this disease for over 5 years, we had a full and complete life, with very little side effects.

The advances in OC treatment in the past few years have been amazing and Google searches have not caught up with suggested time frames and oncologists are using old statistics as guidance, but in truth no one knows, whether we are well, or unwell when our time will be, but for my husband, it gave us a better knowledge that it was shorter than we ever wanted it to be, so we went through his bucket list and did as much as we could to enjoy the life that we were offered, I hope that you and your family can manage to do the same. 

Lowe'