Dad’s diagnosis

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Hi,

My dad was diagnosed with gall bladder cancer at the beginning of December. It has spread to his bile ducts and one of his left ribs.   

He had drains and a stent put in to clear his jaundice.  But in terms of his cancer, we have been told that because it’s so advanced and where it is, it can’t be removed and it’s a case of palliative care.   His prognosis is 4 weeks (worse case) to 3 months (realistic case).  

Since his diagnosis, he had internal bleeding, which stopped when his drains were removed.   After being discharged, he developed sepsis and was readmitted to hospital for antibiotic treatment.   He managed to overcome this.  But then experienced more internal bleeding coming from an artery in his liver.  He received numerous blood transfusions.  He then received a procedure to stop the bleeding which lead to an infection which then developed into sepsis (this within a 2 week period of his first bout of sepsis).  He seems to have improved, although still on antibiotics and he’s still in hospital.  

It’s been relentless for him and an emotional roller coaster.  I feel like I’m constantly on high alert waiting for the next set back to occur.  It is emotionally, physically and mentally exhausting.  

I just wanted to reach out and ask if anyone else has had a similar experience.   I’m devastated.

  • Hi, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I went through a similar situation with my parent. The rage, the unfairness of it and the feeling of losing your rock in life is devastating. Self care is so important right now for you and your loved ones. Take care of you and each other. Talk to your dad, tell him how much you love him, hug him and live in the now. 

    Sending all my very best.

  • Hi LouisaC

    I’m sorry you went through this with your parent.   I completely know what you mean when you say the rage.  I feel so angry all the time.   Thank you for your advice.  I’m trying my best to live in the now.  It’s so hard.