Aloha,
Happy to have found forum. My name is Pam, I'm 56 and clearly writing from Hawaii. I was recently diagnosed with CIN2 after a colposcopy and I'm scheduled for a total hysterectomy fairly soon. I have had fibroid issues in the past and still menstruating, so no issue with this decision.
Instead of worrying about my own health, I'm obsessing over how it will effect future partners (I'm using the word partner loosely). I'm not in a committed relationship, but date and practice safer sex. Now that I can confirm my cells are changing it seems a more honest discussion has to take place that entails saying not only am I high risk, but my cells actually have changed and so could yours.
For a myriad of reasons. I don't take great care of myself. I eat like an 8 year old and despite a lifetime of therapy, Olympic medal at sweating the small stuff. I have to believe my lifestyle choices have maybe contributed in a small part to my diagnosis. Meaning my inability to suppress the virus is personal and a guy with a decent immune system and outlook should be fine.
I believe in transparency, but recognize I could scare the heck out of someone in my need to be honest. I know about dormancy, the lack of male testing and cure, the probability that a man allready has virus, but these realities can't be excuses to not be transparent.
As a 56 year old, dating is challenging as Im seemingly invisible to most men and I'm heartbroken that it's even more complicated than it was before. If your still here, it's appreciated 
Mahalo,
PJl
Hi Pam PJLHI and welcome to our group.
First of all, I’m sorry to read you have an upcoming hysterectomy to go through, but it’s good to read you are at peace with your decision.
I’ve seen discussions come up in the group before around telling both existing and new partners about being a carrier of hpv and I think everyone has individual views on that and how they would handle it. It seems from your post you would want to be upfront about your situation, so perhaps you’d like to think about how you might do that? When would you think it would be the right moment to have that type of discussion?
You’re right in that it might scare a new partner, and typically men might not know as much about the virus as women who are going through regular screening for it. However, you seem to be pretty clued up on how the virus works so might be able to give a good explanation to a potential new partner as it’s clearly an important issue for you.
I don’t have experience in my own situation of ever needing to have this type of conversation with anyone, but it will be interesting to see if some other members would like to join in with this thread if they've had to deal with this.
Sarah xx
