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Hi AnxiousD and welcome to our group.

It’s natural to be worried when you’re having tests, but you don’t have a diagnosis of anything yet so it’s too early for panic. None of us could guess what this thickening is, but you’ll get it checked out and go from there.

If you spend your time worrying now, you’re taking away from today, and looking after your baby. My advice would be distracting yourself and keeping busy, which shouldn’t be too hard with a new baby! There can potentially be a few weeks waiting for any tests, and you’ve said you’re having a biopsy so that will mean waiting for the results from that. 

For me, I didn’t worry until I was told there was something to worry about so I just got on with my normal life. I didn’t assume I was going to get bad news of any sort, and I didn’t use Google to diagnose myself. There was nothing to be gained by doing any of that for me. There can be lots of different explanations for symptoms we have and don’t understand, but many ladies join this group in panic and find out there is nothing serious wrong with them. It can feel like a long process to get some answers, but that’s just how things work-waiting to tests and results takes time, but try not to let thoughts run away with themselves just yet!

Please let us know how you get on, and feel free to ask any questions in the group or share your worries.

Sarah xx

Thank you Sarah. Everything you have said is perfect and makes so much sense. It's actually what I would say to others. I am just finding it all a bit too much being in the unknown. I have gone 1000 miles ahead and googled everything. 

What I'm confused about is, I haven't had any bleeding, which is one of the causes of cervical cancer. I am losing weight though. Could that be me losing baby weight due to being busy?

Like you say, there's no diagnosis yet but I feel I have been told there's something to worry about already by being on the cancer pathway for tests. 

Sorry to be so negative. I am so grateful for my amazing family and friends. I just wish I could be stronger. 

I admire people going through such a horrendous time being so strong. 

Hi AnxiousD 

Yes, bleeding CAN be a symptom of cervical cancer, but it isn’t always. Losing weight isn’t necessarily a symptom (I didn’t for example) but losing weight running around after a new baby is very normal! I lost weight when I had my babies but none when I had a cancer diagnosis. Don’t look for things on Google which can send you into a spiral or try to match what Google tells you to things you may or may not be experiencing-it’s the way of madness! 

Being on the cancer pathway is simply a method of being seen quicker than a non urgent referral, but most people referred for tests will not have cancer. 

Honestly, please try to keep calm and breathe. Google is full of information which may be wrong or outdated and is not specific to you as a person. Even with my own confirmed diagnosis I stayed away from Google and trusted my team, and I still do now. If I had used Google, I suspect I might have been too afraid to go through treatment and surgery so I’m glad I stayed away.

I’d also recommend trying to lose your focus on being strong. You are worried and your feelings are natural so just go with that. Look after yourself, and accept that you have concerns right now-no need to put on a front. It’s better to share your worries and talk about them. But it’s beneficial to try and limit your negativity while you don’t know anything yet-keeping positive will help you. 

Sarah xx

Hi. The consultant didn't do any tests, he sent me for an MRI. Said he isn't too worried given my lack of typical symptoms and said some people just have a thickened cervix. I am praying the MRI is OK and the period is just delayed due to hormones playing up! 

Hi AnxiousD 

Well, it’s positive that the consultant doesn’t feel the need to be concerned. Hopefully the mri won’t show anything and you can move on from all your worry about this.

Sarah xx