Hello, I gave birth to my son four months ago. When we started having sex a month or so after, it was painful and bleeding. I thought I mustn't be healed truly as I did have a read on the inside of the vagina. So we tried again a few weeks later, and still bleeding. I went to the doctor the first time it happened and they said it was period, I went the second time and he said bleeding is normal.
However it didn't sit right with me, and I went to the doctor's again for the third time.
She checked and said it was bleeding very easily and sent me off for STI tests to rule out infection. I contacted GP a few weeks after and was told that they were clear. In this time my lymph nodes in my groin enlarged. I made another doctor appointment to discuss this. Another doctor had a look and she said she could see a growth on there that needs investigating. (It bled again upon examination, and very painful) She kept saying she was sure it is benign and called it something beginning with E. But i can't emember what. I asked myself what the worst case scenario could be and she said cervical cancer.
I have then received a phonecall asking where I want to be seen as being referred to a gyno. The woman stated the referral was urgent. The doctor did keep saying she was sure it was benign and only when I asked did she mention cancer.
I'm really scared and have been crying myself to sleep and looking at my son thinking I can't bare to leave him if something happens. I'm breastfeeding too.
I feel as though my.world is crumbling. I've lost weight too and I don't know if due to stress or because I'm unwell.
All.my smears were normal..can you still get cancer if they were?
Sorry long post. I'm only 29.
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community
I'm not a member of this group but noticed that you hadn't had any replies to your post yet.
Waiting to go for tests and then waiting for the results of tests is always a stressful time and it's natural to fear the worst even though your GP has said that she's sure that what she has seen is benign. You might find this article on how to ease worry when waiting helpful.
You have done the right thing in going to see your GP. Being referred urgently means that you should hopefully be seen within 2 weeks. It doesn't mean that you have cancer but the GP has guidelines to follow and this has meant that you will get an urgent referral rather than possibly having to wait many weeks to be seen.
Do you have a date yet to see the gynaecologist? While you're waiting you need to find something to distract yourself so you spend less time worrying. I suspect that having a four month old baby gives you plenty of distraction! 
Do come back and let us all know how you get on and remember that no amount of worrying will change anything but it will make your life miserable in the meantime.
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hello thank you so much for your kind reply. Made me feel.emotional reading it, you offered such a kind and warm welcome and some helpful advice.
I have just had a blood test done today. I'm very gutted at the moment as I got a letter through saying there are no appointments available, and they will contact me when there is. Its a bit worryin
as meant to be urgent
Hi Beth sorry to hear about your cancer diagnosis . Thank you for replying to me and telling me your story, hoping you are staying and doing well XXX
I was sure she meant that but she referred to it as a growth and was unsure if that was a type of growth. Just have a long time to wait now as though my referral has gone through, there is no appointments at all. I'm guessing this is due to COVID.
So just worrying even more
Hi
The waiting for referrals and tests is horrible, I agree.
If you are able to take an appointment at short notice, then you could phone the number on the letter and tell them that you can take any appointment that is cancelled, if you can do that. Currently, lots of people will be cancelling if they're worried about the possibility of catching coronavirus.
Wishing you all the best
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
No problem
Like your sister I also got a cancellation when I was recalled after a mammogram. I was due to be away on holiday on the date of the recall so phoned the hospital and got one that afternoon! Everything was okay, thankfully.
I think the community is a great place to be able to chat as it's all completely anonymous. You don't need to worry if you get emotional, because no one can see you, and no one here is going to say "I'm sure there's nothing wrong" or any number of other well meaning phrases because we've all been where you are now.
I will say though to try to spend as little time as possible worrying because, as you know, it won't change anything. If you fancy giving mindfulness a go this link will take you to the NHS page on mental health apps which in turn has links to mindfulness apps, some of which are free. It's not something I've tried myself but a lot of people find it very helpful.
I'm very well at the moment, touch wood. I'm through my treatment and just have 3 monthly check-ups with my consultant. However, because of Covid they're happening over the phone at the moment which isn't ideal but, hey ho!
Let me know when you have an appointment date
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
