Since July last year I have followed this Macmillan site as a way of coping with and researching the devastating news that my best friend, my hero my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 inoperable pancreatic cancer... It has been a tough journey that’s for sure but he is still fighting and I am so very proud of him and of my mum who has been so strong. Today at the cancer ward we had some heartbreaking news from the specialist.. however in today’s appointment it was not my dad sat beside me, it was my mum, she was told today that she has stage 3 secondary breast cancer,triple negative , it has spread to her lymph nodes and the lower portion of her lungs... is there anyone out there who can share their experience of the same diagnosis.
I don’t know what I am supposed to be feeling ... I’m just determined to appear as the tower of strength in front of my parents on a daily basis just as I have since dads diagnosis.
thank you to anyone who replies.
Ben x
Hi Ben, so sorry to hear your devastating news about your mum and dad - hopefully this forum will help and give you some hope that there are treatments available to make life worth living. I have secondary breast cancer in my right lung, ribs and sacrum and am on Letrozole and Ibrance since October 20. I had a talc pleuradesis to prevent fluid in lungs recurring and have been back at work since November and have resumed my 2 mile walks. It is a hellish psychological journey ( anxiety which I never had before/ thinking I was going to die again) but I found this forum really helped as we are all going through the same journey with support from people who are a bit ahead of you. x
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