Hi all- I was wondering if anyone could shed some light or advice. I have secondary breast cancer in the bones but my oncologist isn’t keen to remove the primary breast tumour just now as she says it’s a marker if I feel it changing that something is wrong. She did say it was my choice whether to have it removed or not if I felt strongly about it. I’ve never even been in hospital before and it scares me. I’m half and half- where I’d rather not have surgery but I’m also getting tired of carrying this thing around with me- it doesn’t cause me too much pain but I can feel it nipping every so often. Also does it do harm to leave it in? If it was out does it mean the treatment could concentrate more on other areas? I know that may sound silly! I’m 38 and was diagnosed about 8 months ago first time diagnosis. Can it still spread if it’s left in? It has shrunk slightly on treatment but is still pretty large now measuring 3.8cm having previously been 5cm. Any advice would be appreciated thanks as I’m a bit lost as to what to do for the best!
Hello
I've been on treatment for a year ish and it was the same for me.
I intially really wanted them to remove both breasts just in case. I felt very strognly about this, why have something in me that wants to kill me?! BUT Surgery was not seen to be helpful/necessary/useful in my case because the lump was so close to the skin. Fast forward 3-6 months and very importantly the lump has ceased to exist because of the meds I am on (palbociclib/letrozole and zoladex). So I got to keep my boobs (win!) Sometimes when I'm self assessing, I'll have a feel of where the lump used to be and I find it reassuring (silver linings!)
In hindsight, I am pleased I got to keep my boobs. Keeping them caused no harm. My meds were and continue to be just as effective.
You should do whatever feels right for you, armed with your team's advice because they will know all the facts about your case.
Hi Greenery
Thanks for replying- that has reassured me and that does make sense and that’s great news! I’m worried though that mine hasn’t shrunk enough- I feel mine is quite large but am I just being impatient? The fact that it has shrunk a little I know is good as it’s going in the right direction! I can feel it in me and I hate it but would rather it shrunk and disappeared rather than surgery I suppose!
Thanks
I had another cancer before this and the words of my oncologist and my dad always rings true. If your drugs/treatment keep the tumour steady or decrease it, then they are both a positive result and what you are after.
The only thing that might be considered a concerning result is if it grows while you are on treatment. That’s not the intention. Yours is moving in the right direction, which is fantastic news.
Hi Jo6
my first diagnosis was secondary in Nov 16. I have not had an operation to remove breast tumours. It took me a long time to understand why they wouldn’t remove the breast. I did have some growth of the breast lumps maybe after about 9 months of treatment but they zapped it with radiotherapy and it has been stable ever since.
Just thought it might be useful to see there are a few of us not had the op.
take care
Thanks Greenery and Angela for your replies. I suppose it makes sense. I just hate carrying it around with me sometimes and knowing that it’s still there!
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