Firstly I'd like to say it never ceases to amaze me how women seem to deal with this most evil of diseases, bless you all.
My dear wife passed away at the end of March this year due to 2nd triple negative breast cancer, brain mets. This was a great shock to us as her treatment seemed to be focused on Lung, Bone and Liver, all of which were stable or showing shrinkage after just over a year of treatment. It wasn't until early January that she suffered a slight seizure and following an Xray in A&E tumours were found on her brain. These were successfully removed surgically and Gama knife treatment within 2 weeks. Our elation was short lived as within 6 weeks her planned monitoring MRI which included her head found more brain tumours had developed that could not be treated. We were shocked and confused as throughout her treatment nobody had mentioned the possibility of brain mets and her MRI scans before this did not include head scans.
The rapid decline in her health and efforts to maintain her quality of life occupied our minds and time so did not ponder on what ifs to any great extent.
I recognise it is not helpful, and does nothing to ease my grief but I do wonder had this been a standard check throughout her treatment, would this have been found and treated earlier, would she have survived a little longer and would we been able to have enjoyed this summer together.
I raise this so that any other woman newly diagnosed with 2nd breast cancer can ask the question during consultation on treatment options.
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community
Can I offer my sincere condolences on the loss of your wife earlier this year. It must be very hard for you at the moment so thank you for taking the time to offer this advice and support to other people in this community who are currently dealing with secondary breast cancer.
You might yourself benefit from the support of the bereaved spouses and partners group where you can share your feelings with others who have lost their partners. If you'd like to join just click on the link I've created.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
