just been told today I have secondary breast cancer which has spread to my abdomen. been told to start hormone tablets as oestrogen related.feeling confused, I know this is not curable but scared to ask THE QUESTION how long. how do I deal with my life as of now? what does everyone else do when told you cant be mended
Hi
Thought I would send you my experience of receiving the news that I had secondary breast cancer. I was diagnosed with initial breast cancer November 2013.
In Nov 13-Feb 14, I had a lumpectomy ( as low stage ), followed by radiotherapy and 5 yrs ( later lengthened to 10yrs) of Anastrozole ( Arimidex Astra Zeneca) as hormone sensitive bc. Additionally, I had 4 lymph nodes removed, all clear. Please see my profile for more detail.
In Jan 2018, had a scan ( suggested by my local GP who’s incidentally married to an Oncologist), because I had had backache and diarrhoea. So, I was devastated on Jan 4th 2018 to be told that I had secondary breast cancer stage 4 : a large tumour round an artery near heart. It transpired that the backache was due to Osteoarthritis ( diagnosed by an Isotope bone scan) and the diarrhoea probably due to the anti oestrogen tablets Arimidex I was taking.
I just said ( in shock) how long do I have? My lovely Oncologist replied 6-18 months without treatment. With treatment some years. So, I opted to be put on Chemo straight away. I’ve been on oral / tablets chemo Capecitabine since that date.
All it takes is just one rogue cancer cell floating off round body to start the breast cancer growing somewhere again.
I did ask her what the reoccurrence was for secondary bc to be told : one in three. If I had known that, when I had had “no evidence of disease” following lumpectomy, I think that I would not have been so shocked on Jan 4th 2018.
My initial dose of Capecitabine was high to blitz the SBC, I had an Isotope bone scan, which showed that I also had tumours in the spine and sternum, in addition to the original mass. I was prescribed Calcium tablets, VitD 3, ( and opted to take the anti depressant Duloxetine, brand Cymbalta).
The dose of Capecitabine was reduced subsequently as I had side effects (SE) of diarrhoea, sore eyes, burning soles of feet, insomnia and severe heart burn. The lower dose is much more tolerable.
I “try” to live day to day and don’t think about the fact I have non curable cancer and concentrate instead on the fact that it is possible to treat/ contain it instead. But some days it is not easy, and my sleep is not as it could be ( insomnia). Prior to the initial bc diagnosis I had sleep apnea ( diagnosed via a sleep clinic at hospital).
Through research on Google ( no help from Hospital sleep nurse who just suggested CPAP machine).
I have been to Guy’s Hospital London and had a mouth device ( Mandibular Assisted Device: MAD ) made on advice of the consultant); my referral to Guy’s was by my dentist and also GP. The resulting mouth device means that I have no more snoring/ waking up from sleep.
I also have a daily blood thinner injection of Tinzaparin in the stomach ( via GP surgery M-F & District Nurse weekends as can’t stand needles). One in 10 people with cancer either get blood clots in lungs or DVT. I had blood clots in lungs diagnosed via a scan. Before scan. I had had shortness of breath walking. Plus I had a minor blood clot in leg, from sitting around too long on sofa. This I try to avoid now.
The local Macmillan Horizon Centre offers free complementary therapies eg Acupuncture, massage, Reiki, Reflexology. Plus yoga Pilates and a Counsellor and these all help. I also attend a Secondary Breast Cancer social/ information monthly group which helps too.
https://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/in-your-area
I hope that the above is useful.
Judith xx
thanks for your words.. I didn't know that recurrence was so high! I suppose at the moment im worrying more for those around me .ive had breast cancer twice, last time having mastectomy and chemo 9 years ago, and thought id won. I suppose I will have highs and lows, it doesn't help my cancer isn't common so not much info on line or people with it.
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