MBC in lungs and lymph nodes... Drs not offering chemo?

Hi so sorry to hear about your mum, as I have recently started treatment I hope it will be of some help to share my experience.  I am 64 BC at 51, 59 and now mets at 64. My treatment was not discussed for weeks whilst investigations were carried out. First a bone scan, then CT then bone biopsy. The process seems so slow but each step leads towards a treatment plan that is very targeted to an individual’s particular disease. I am on my second cycle of treatment which is a combination of injections and tablets not chemo at the moment and I am feeling well. The waiting is so hard on the whole family but I do hope that you all feel a lot better once the investigations are complete and treatment plan in place. I take hope from the fact that a lot of women on the forum are living with SBC. Sending very best wishes to you and your mum, take care, Lyn.

So sorry to read this Elly. My mum has SBC/liver mets. It’s the hardest thing. About the prognosis - I haven’t wanted to ask. I just feel it’s a snap shot and based on stats, years ago. Since April (when my mum was diagnosed) such a lot has changed/developed that I just don’t feel a prognosis would be helpful or reliable. Your right as well, until the scans they can’t really tell you or your mum everything. Until we got the results, we didn’t get any indication on treatment.in the end I phoned them and asked them when they gave us the results, we had a plan. I needed some hope and some direction - have to say I think they would have done that anyway. My mum doesn’t ask questions either and I think it’s because she prefers to leave it to them and let them worry about it - I’ve found that tough but I’ve let mum take the lead. 
Weve had the same years and not months and that’s helped me, and who knows what will happen in terms of advancements between now and then. So sorry you are going through this especially with you being pregnant too :( xx