Me and my husband were solid after 28 years with my breast cancer diagnosis and treatment. But since then he's gone off the rails and im struggling. Any help?
He is maybe frightened and having difficulty dealing with your cancer and the future, and worried but unable to voice his worries for fear of upsetting you. Perhaps suggest seeing a relationship counsellor such as relate might help?
My husband of almost 20 years really, really struggled to come to terms with my diagnosis. He is ex- military and hardly ever shows his emotions. At times it felt like he just did not give a d**n, but I made sure we kept talking and it was only once I had the surgery and the results from biopsy, did he really open up to me and he admitted my diagnosis hit him like a ton of bricks and he felt so helpless. I am a strong (stubborn is how hubby describes me) woman and once I got my head around diagnosis and got treatment plan, I just got on with it, but he struggled with supporting me as he felt he had to be strong for me.
Just keep talking, this horrible disease takes so much from us, don’t let it take your relationship too. Hugs xx
I agree with everyone here. My husband broke down the other day (I was diagnosed in October) and when we talked he said he was simply exhausted with the overwhelm of the last 9 months. This disease impacts us all and it is so frightening to think of losing your partner. Counselling might be a good option either together or separately - my teenage son is having some sessions just now to help him make sense of it all and I have had counselling in the past during difficult moments. Good luck. I am sure you can get through this xx
