That’s both of us battling cancer now!

I can’t begin to imagine how difficult this situation must be. Am so sorry to read about your husband and your own diagnosis. You must be exhausted. 
Can you tell your MIL that you are finding the way she is talking about your mastectomy difficult? The language might be her way of coping but it sounds awful. You have so much to process, for you and your own health, on top of coming to terms with your husband’s prognosis. 
I don’t know enough about your husband’s situation, but can you take a couple of days off together? Get away and do something relaxing? 
The Macmillan helpline might be useful - give you an opportunity to talk everything through with somebody that understands. 
Sending a hug x 

Or could you have a couple of days away on your own or with a friend? X 

Thank you for your reply Bobof. I've shared my MIL concerns with hubby today so he's able to help. Also she really is an amazing person and will be nothing but helpful while she's here, I'm prob just being too sensitive. I've have to adapt to the changes myself anyway and humour will hopefully get us through. 

It's odd to say that I'm looking forward to the recovery time off work as it will give us some time to do things together. He hasn't worked of 4 years so financially I don;t thing we can get away but we can try and do cinema trips, walk the dogs together, etc, those things we can;t do when I'm working. We'll make the best out of it :) 

Hi Gooddaysbaddays,  I am so sorry to read about your and your husbands diagnosis.  It must be unbelievably difficult working and looking after your husband.  Now that you are taking time off for your mastectomy perhaps you will be able to do things together.  I have stage 4 breast cancer with mets in all bones but I am trying to enjoy each and every day.  I love walking my dogs , it gives me me time if that makes sense.  If you need any help with benefit etc  because I know that cancer can be a huge drain on finances when you are not able to work, I can try and help you.  I worked in benefits for 21 years before I had to take ill health retirement in June.  Good luck to you both.  Hugs.

Lee x