That’s both of us battling cancer now!

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Hubby was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer 5 years ago and has been told last week that they’ve run out of options.

Meanwhile I’m due a mastectomy at the end of the month for stage 2. I’m exhausted after dealing with his health for all this time but feeling a ton of guilt that my diagnosis seems to be so much easier to deal with.

I’m struggling to share my fears as they’re not anything compared with the news he’s now dealing with. My MIL is coming down to look after us both after my surgery as she’s amazing but if she says one more time that I just need it lopped off I’m going to cry.

I’m honestly done with adulting and just want to step away wishing there was someone to take over for me for a while. 

We’re both 50 but feel like a zillion years old right now. 

  • I can’t begin to imagine how difficult this situation must be. Am so sorry to read about your husband and your own diagnosis. You must be exhausted. 
    Can you tell your MIL that you are finding the way she is talking about your mastectomy difficult? The language might be her way of coping but it sounds awful. You have so much to process, for you and your own health, on top of coming to terms with your husband’s prognosis. 
    I don’t know enough about your husband’s situation, but can you take a couple of days off together? Get away and do something relaxing? 
    The Macmillan helpline might be useful - give you an opportunity to talk everything through with somebody that understands. 
    Sending a hug x 

  • Or could you have a couple of days away on your own or with a friend? X