Waiting

Try not to worry too much until you know what has happened. It would be very unusual to be contacted on the same day the doctors meet to discuss cases. in my case they met on a Wednesday and then arranged appointments for the following Monday after they had decided possible courses of treatment and could get the cancer nurses organised etc if needed. 

My son was 12 when I found out I had cancer and he took it pretty well. It hit him hard but knowing what it was and what the next steps were helped him. There was also some great advice on this site about how to talk to your children about cancer. 

This site is always a good one to talk with people who have been there and done that. Waiting is the worst and is also something you get used to. 

I hope you hear something soon. 

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Hello 19Jasper19 Just wanted to send you a hug. The waiting at this point is simply horrible - just do what you need to do to distract yourself. 

I was diagnosed about 6 weeks before my son’s 16th birthday, just before he went on a school trip. I delayed telling him til after that and until I knew what I was telling him (if that makes sense). It’s his GCSEs this year so I felt very guilty. Have tried to be open but not freak him out either. I will think about getting him a little therapy once his exams are done too. 

Also, at my biopsies they took several samples from my lymph nodes - they were swollen and they said they suspected they were involved but when I had surgery my lymphs were clear. They don’t always know…

Maybe call the BCN Tuesday morning to see if they have your results and to get next steps. You could also ring the macmillan line or breast cancer now line to talk to somebody today or tomorrow if that would help. 

Take care x 

Hi 19Jasper19 , lovely replies already, just wanted to pop in to add a hug. You’re at that tortuous limbo stage, it really is horrible. Hope you hear something soon, and get an appointment quickly. The fear of the unknown can be overwhelming; I think we have all felt better once we knew what we were dealing with. Sending love and a big virtual hug, HFxx

Thank you. I think you are right it will be after the drs meet.

I appreciate all your replies. X