Trying to keep a level head

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Morning, been a bit of a tough start to the year, and I guess I’m just needing to reach out. I had a mastectomy and reconstruction Dec 2023. Then due to several symptoms I had an urgent referral back to the breast clinic, I was due an annual mammogram anyway but struggled to tell family and friends over the Christmas period, until I got an appointment. Long story short I ended up having biopsy on an auxiliary node on the reconstructed side and a biopsy of microcalcifications on my remaining breast. I received a phone call yesterday to arrange for me to go in on Tuesday to get my results. I have been trying to keep a level head but struggling this morning. Just wondered if anyone has any words of wisdom or advice….thanks 

  • Good morning 

    As hard as it is try and stay hopeful, we aren't always in control of what is going in and that is hard to manage. Try and do things that you enjoy that will take your mind off what's going on. 

    If you cn let people know how you are feeling so that they can support you. I need to take my own advice as I keep things to myself as I don't want to worry people so I understand where you are coming from. 

    I get annoyed with phrases like be strong and stay positive but essentially we are this everyday without trying. 

    Take care xxx

  • Thank you for acknowledging it’s hard, that in its self is helpful. Sometimes I just feel I need time to sit with my emotions before I share them and like you say, when you do talk about fears people tell you, it will be ok, or you see the worry in their face.

    I need to go with my friend for her first mammogram on Wednesday too, so I’m struggling with how next week is going to pan out.

    1 more cup of tea and then I’ll get my big girl pants on and go and face the world, thank you for your words xxx

  • So sorry you are having a time of it, it's not easy. Keep hopeful that the results are better than you are fearing and whatever it is, tell those that matter as soon as so they can support you every step of the way.  

    Take care xx

  • Hi, like most of us, I found the waiting to be the most awful time. For me it's all about distraction and keeping busy - work helped, but also just listening to a podcast, reading, baking, anything that meant I wasn't sitting thinking.   Night times are the worst I know, but I used the headspace app to help me focus on sleep.   Best wishes for Tuesday

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  • Thank you, I spent my weekend keeping busy, Read a lot as you suggested and found by using my laptop and using the immersive reader as it helped keep me focused on what I was reading and stopped my mind from wondering (well to much). Can’t actually believe it’s Monday morning already, 1 more sleep Fingers crossed tone1. Thank you all so much for your words of support, you have helped a little lady out in a massive way

  • I hope everything went well for you today xx