How to cope with treatment in a couple

Hi Leona4 I just wanted to say hi, as that sounds super stressful. I have RA/PA so I understand the pain your husband is in with that asides from anything else and what crapness is it that you have cancer at the same time! No wonder you’re stressed. I had a 12 year old during treatment too so I know you are juggling. Things I found helpful to switch off and cope was to walk my dog with a good friend so if you have a friend with a dog, do half hour when you can, walking, fresh air, chatting about anything was great. I just used to say to get her to moan at me or say tell me your stuff, so my focus was away from my life, and she got to vent too. Win win. 

Lying in a room, with no noise, tv, distractions for 10/15 minutes, just listening to your breathing, or letting my mind wander freely, that helped.

I got the Calm app and did some mediations, some a just minutes long, some are an hour, they have music and sounds to relax too, sleep stories, etc. they’ll offer you a half price subscription quite quickly after you download the app, a few bits of contents are free if you hold your nerve. 

Reading magazines rather than books. I didn’t have the mental energy for a book but reading a magazine was less commitment and seemed easier.

Hope that helps a bit and good luck xx