Wish I didn’t do it. It says multifocal cancer, grade 2, 3 out of 20 lymph nodes involved one with macro mets, vascular invasion and extra capsular extension. Doesn’t sound good to me :( didn’t get clear margins either so having another op after chemo. Does anyone have any positive stories of their cancer not spreading with a similar diagnosis? I’m 38 and struggling with guilt that I might not see my little boy grow up
Hi clare , your story sounds a bit similar to me . And it's all just so scary . I haven't been on here much as just navigating the essentials day to day . I had surgery which was unsuccessful, 4 out of 6 nodes cancerous and no clear margins ,and now just had 4 /6 chemo doses , new drug for number 4 . For more surgery afterward chemo . Struggling with side effects the reality of living with a a canacer diagnosis at 40 , and I don't have any massive advice or anything but I'm sending love and positive thoughts. We re all fighters and doing all we can to be here for our little ones . None of it is your fault . Please be kind to yourself darling . Its one scary ride huni , I'm terrified every day but please feel free to message if you want to speak to someone , sending love xx
Thank you for your reply. Got myself in such a state this evening over it, trying to decode it all and Googling everything :-( yours does sound very similar, I’m having a different drug with chemo 4 too, got round 2 next Wednesday. Everything feels bleak, and pointless, I was so positive until I read about the vascular invasion! Sending you lots of love and positive thoughts too xx
Hang in there. It’s scary but people do survive it. It’s easy to look back and think what if…But better to look forward with no regrets and do your best with where you are now. Easier said than done. I know…took me till a year after treatment finished to hit that point. Try yes to life or cancer active for some positivity. They helped me a lot. Also Penny Brohn charity too
. Try and do those things that help calm you. I wish I’d been more proactive and joined yoga or tried a ten minute breathing thing like the free wim hof you tubes or meditations. Relaxation and mindfulness are so helpful for cancer outcomes, as is exercise. More than anything do something that totally distracts you and makes you happy. It’s a tough place to be before your final plan, and it honestly feels better once you know what will happen. If you feel stressed, as is absolutely normal, the helpline is great just for letting it all out. Saying it makes it less scary somehow. I rang a few times and it was the right thing for me at the time. Thinking of you.
dont google, check here or check breastcancernow.org to find people who are have been in similar places. i read one womans messages on breastcancernow who had similar diagnosis and it helped me a lot to read.
hang in there hugs, i also had to have two surgeries.
