Waiting for wife’s results

Hi Plonkinski

Welcome to the forum and sorry to that your wife is facing a breast cancer diagnosis,  It's perfectly understandable that you are both afraid of what's to come.  Breast cancer is very treatable these days and treatments for breast cancer are improving all the time.  While it doesn't feel like it now breast cancer is not the death sentence it once was.  Your wife's medical team will do everything in their power to get your wife well.

I'll just give you a couple pieces of advice.  One is don't google your wife's cancer as the information is out of date, rely on this site and breast cancer now for your information and I also suggest that you join the family and friends forum where you can talk to other family members of people going through cancer treatment. Here's the link to that forum: Family and friends forum .  If your wife hasn't already encourage her to join this forum as well where she'll find plenty of support as she needs it.

Wishing you and your wife the best of luck with what's ahead.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Thank you Daisy . It’s good to know that there’s hope . Unfortunately I already googled it and found bad stuff . I have also seen the positives from this site so the future isn’t quite as bad as I first thought. I know it’s going to be a long hard journey and I’m with her all the way 

Google is not always correct they say go on NHS sites or Cancer charity sites. Positivity is  key I hope you get through all this as a lot of us have best of luck xx

Thanks Jane . It’s good to share . Makes me stronger for her so I can be the rock she needs 

My husband was my rock he stayed so strong for me. I love him so much and will always fight to stay with him and my family. I had SMX chem and radiotherapy now on meds for 10 years doing all I can to rid this from me. I won't say it's an easy road but it is do able you can be by your wife's side and she will get through it. I had lymph node involvement which scared me but got them removed too and chemo to mop up any tiny cells. Am 1 year out of active treatment and doing ok. This site is wonderful always here x

Hi. So very sorry to hear of your wife situation. I echo everything already said. My hubby has been my rock through my ongoing treatment. It's ok for you to cry too and I would agree if you have any questions come on here and ask away. Also encourage your wife. 

thanks F1, I don’t think she’s ready yet until after we know what we’re dealing with then I’ll get her to interact with other members . We’ve had many tears , more me than her but tomorrow is a big day in our life. Just hope treatment starts quickly . 

And we will all be thinking of you tomorrow. Being honest with you thinking the worst actually worked out more positive for us. While we were waiting for diagnosis everyone said be positive and we tried but it ended up as cancer. Then once op was done we tried to think positively that I would only need radiotherapy not chemotherapy and low and.behold chemotherapy was on the cards. When it came to facing chemo we decided to think negative that it would be awful and I would get every side effect going. And it wasn't nearly as bad and I sailed through with minimal side effects. Strange reverse psychology worked. 

Keeping everything crossed for you both

Hi,

So sorry your wife, and you, are in this position.  It is a very scary time and I completely understand and relate to how you both are feeling.  Like your wife I too had a large tumour and lymph node involvement and was told straight away they thought it was cancer before the results of biopsy.  I also needed chemotherapy first before surgery as wouldn't have been able to get clear margins. After my chemotherapy I had a mastectomy and node clearance and the surgery results recently showed I have had 100% response to chemotherapy. So just to let you know even when you start off from a place of having a large aggressive tumour and lymph node involvement the end result can be a positive one.  Like others have said the treatments are very effective these days. Try to take one day at a time and not think ahead too much.  I hope treatment starts soon s I know the waiting is hard.  

Thank you Lucy . I showed her this and I think it helped her .