Feel like giving up

Chemo & radiotherapy aren't forever, it's just a small portion of your life. 

If you are unhappy don't you deserve the chance for something more?

Hello 

I feel for you. I was the same as you, my marriage was a disaster.  I knew he was having an affair before my diagnosis but I chose not to challenge him.  There's so much I could say but nearly 4 years since diagnosis and 2 years since he left, I'm now single and happy. If you need any support from me I'm here for you as we all are,

Love julie 

To Charlieandlola .... first, i can't get over how fast time as gone.  

I remember you and your situation - I was worried for you, as I could not imagine how I would cope or which way I would turn - more than likely would of buried my head in the sand......

Sooooo to read your reply to German shepherd mom is so uplifting and comforting.  You have gone through so much and to read you are happy shows us all 'we can do it' - we just have to believe in ourselves, put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward - small steps, just keep moving forward and knowing 'we can do it'.

Hello WhatHappened 

You all helped me on here and yes indeed I was a mess. Not anymore,  still worry about cancer but the rest of my life is lovely,  he did me a massive favour in the end , thanks for your kindness  

Love julie 

What a lovely story to share x

Maybe delay moving on until  after this is over. It's stressful splitting up. Sometimes it just happens naturally. Friends can be more important. X

I have a few missing teeth, I wear a dental plate. It's not the end of the world, I know it's everything. My answer lower down was aimed at you. There is always hope if it's treatable.  One step at a time. It happens in stages. 

At least we get help with this kind of cancer. My friend had breast cancer 18 yrs ago. Hope and prayers always for the best outcome. X

Hi Germanshepherdmom, sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time, not only with your cancer diagnosis but also in your personal life. Remember we are all different and react differently to the treatments. Some people haven’t lost their hair, some it’s just thinned a bit and yes some have lost most or all, but it starts to grow back as you finish your chemo. Mine started to grow back a bit whilst I was on chemo still when I was having docetaxel. They have to list all the side effects of these things but it’s unlikely you would get all of them. Some they will be able to give medication to help combat the side effects like the nausea and sickness. It’s so much to take in and cope with. I’m friends with someone who is on her own, she copes and had continued to work and do things whilst on chemo and radiotherapy. Keeping busy helps to distract. I’m sure there are others on here on their own too who could offer advice with how they cope. Hopefully you have a good circle of friends that maybe could help and give you some support. The people on here are so supportive and the Macmillan nurses are great too. You can always give them a call to have a chat. Visit g your local Macmillan or Maggies centre, there are always people there to chat to who can offer help and advice too.

Hopefully your dentist can remove the teeth quickly so you can get to start your treatment soon.  I know it’s not comfortable having teeth removed I had one removed, but it does soon heal and salt rinses work wonders. 

Wishing you all the best for your journey. 
Higs from cuffcake x x x x x

Hi German Shepherd mum

This is not easy and the shock of hearing those words just floors you  

I had surgery and lymph node clearance, chemo and radiotherapy.

Like you I had a dental check after chemo and lost my hair  I was told I needed 4 teeth removed at the top,  back,  both sides. They were heavily filled and a bit loose due to shrinking gums. I must be honest this broke me, more hospital, more pain I was distraught. I already have a top denture plate but knew it would be months before my gums would heal and could have some back teeth. Very difficult eating with stitches both sides. But after going through a mastectomy which resulted in a seroma which needed draining 2/3 times a week for a couple of weeks I began to think what else can go wrong for me. You can  become totally consumed with it all. 

Positivity really can help very hard to do but you will get through this and be a stronger person for it. I never thought I could do it especially when they threw chemo in the mix and I knew my hair was going. I didn't try cold cap decided to embrace it and had a wig and pretty hats.

I now belong to a breast cancer group and it gives you a lot of support seeing others who have been or are going through this. There is a young girl comes she is still having chemo,  single parent with a 3 year old bless her she is amazing. 

You are braver and stronger than you think and you will get through this once treatment starts it all moves along. You may feel once treatment is done you few life differently and feel up to sorting personal issues. 

Use the forum and Macmillan they are all great . Luv to you 

Treatment is so improved and gives us the best chance to have life and for that I am eternally grateful.️

My heart goes out to you as I think I can safely say we've all been there with the devastation all this brings to our lives. Having been through a fairly rubbish divorce several years ago I'd advise staying put if you're able to for the time being? This journey is HARD but so is separation & to cope with both at once may be a step too far for even the strongest of people. I'd also advise trying to have a chat with your GP surgery. My GP & Practice Nurse have been very supportive & I've had several medications to get me through some properly dark times. I send you lots of love & strength & we're all here for you if need us xx