Well I guess I either have the gallbladder surgery and delay chemo for about 6 weeks to settle the pancreatitis. In the meantime the tumour spreads . Or I risk chemo and potentially being got by the pancreatitis. Feel like I am being asked choose which illness gets me. Can’t cope anymore had enough . Xx
Why can't they take the tumor out at the same time as your gall bladder? As they said your cancer has not spread at your last scan. Two surgeons at same time is that an option? It would be more difficult but is it worth suggesting? Finish chemotherapy after recovery ? Sorry to hear your news Harleybear X
Hi Harleybear sorry to hear your news but I was going to suggest the same as rhiwbina, remove your breast lump at same time as your gallbladder I would ask to see if its an option xxx
My hair is still here I've had 3 treatments so far, and used cold cap. I have always said if it fell out I would wear a sleep cap indoors around children and wig during day as losing hair is a big thing for them. But I'm not continuing with cold cap anymore as I really struggled last time where hair has got thin x
I am so grateful for your kind words,it just engulfs me like a warm hug xx
The thought of going thru another op after radiotherapy is not something I can bear, plus who knows what about infections n complications if any. I had a prosthesis fitted today and the first time I looked at myself in a full length mirror n my bcn took a photo of me. I think looking at myself, I said, THIS IS ME. With every repeat of those words, I think I am OK with it. As u said, underneath clothes, no one will ever know. Of course, others who want recon, that is also OK coz we all decide what's best for us.
When I get scared I will rber the sparkling road u advised n keep walking, a bit like Dorothy on the yellow brick road, only more bling! Tq 4 putting a smile on my face. We all have been thru so much esp u jayne with the clot . Don't blame u for wanting to shut this chapte behind ur! I am so glad you're in better spirits, this forum is g8 Ilike this that we can pull each other through our lows.
I was meant to see Martin kemp DJ-ing in March, may not be possible now. Sigh
I do hope you give yourself a treat after all this. What are your Christmas plans if any, let's hope Boris doesn't ruin it for us.
Hi Claud lovely to hear from you this evening . And you seem to be feeling a little better. Yer I can't go through another op but you can review that next year if you want. The scars I have now are just life marks ,that I have picked up along the way. I'm still here and my grandchildren don't give a flying figg what I look like they just want to be with Nanny ! Which is what your little one needs just Mummy all well , that's enough they don't ask for much just the most important things. I'm feeling well no fatigue yet it's usually started by now so don't know what's going on but I will take it as I feel ok. Today for the first time I have begun to see a futher for myself. I have spent 7 months worrying about cancer well I'm going to try and move on and look to the summer . Boris is driving me up the wall well they are all getting on my nerves really. I would prefer a lockdown really as long as we can see our families. I'm going to go to my daughter for Lunch on Christmas Day and eat what the hell I want ! It's the shortest day tomorrow or today yippee light nights are on the way . So today we have both taken another step on the road we are on our way your little one will notice that your mood is lifting they are so perspective , it will be good for him to , it will make his Christmas too. X
Was also going to say same as jayne n Shazzer, already under GA, but ask surgeons how feasible as u don't want too much trauma to the body, every op carry risks. I have asked my onco before, at the first consultation, if the tumor doesn't respond to chemo then what happens? He then said u could stop chemo half way to have op. The usual protocol for healing waiting period is 6 to 8 weeks in between chemo/op n vice versa, and the onco said cancer doesn't spread like that overnight, it takes years. It's a difficult time for you right now n I am sorry you found yourself in this horrible situation, not sure if this does give any comfort.
Let yourself be guided by the docs Harley, as hard it is to trust. Ask them what they would do if they are in similar position.
