Am I alone in wondering why people say the most ridiculous things to me in an attempt to empathise maybe or be helpful? How do you cope with it? From lectures on dropping dairy, turmeric curing me, friends who sailed through chemo because they were ‘ strong’ , all that warrior language irritates me, you’re the strongest person I know you’ll kick it’s arse, you need to be brave, only strong minded people get through this. Oh you’ve had to shave your head? Shame you could’ve saved it, not likely it was coming out in chunks, at least you’ll get ready quicker, less time in the shower, great to be signed off work in the summer though! My aunt/friend/work colleague had it and tried xyz, they were amazing, they died sadly!!!! I could go on on but recently my patience is wearing thin and my smile and words of thanks are slipping somewhat. A friend texted me and said don’t worry you’ll be fine and I could help it, asked for a look in her crystal ball!!
How do others cope with it? My default is humour but it’s running out!!!!
Keep that humour, it's how I dealt with it, and still do 
I honestly don't think people know what to say. I've been astounded at the people who have run a mile from me and those that have come closer to me. The gas man of all people was so interested and whilst his comments were completely insensitive he did at least have compassion.
I'm just back from a holiday where I had the misfortune of dining in a restaurant two nights running. A guy on the first night stared at me the whole meal and I was so self conscious in the wig. I was devastated that he was there the second night.... I mean its so rude to stare.. I'm normally a very confident person but not in the wig I hate it. I just want my hair back 
Wow I felt that! I cant stand the comments about being strong etc. I say that I'm not strong, I'm just going from appointment to appointment and following orders. That's not strength, that's going through the motions necessary to be cancer free.
On the other hand, I completely understand why people say these things 
Sounds like you have hit that black hole that we all bash into at some point and you have been dealing with it well.
I know what you mean..especially with what you should and shouldn't eat. I told them there is no research in this area and I will eat what I like.
People generally mean well and don't mean to offend but it can be tiring listening to some of the dribble that comes out of people's mouths.
I use to avoid talking about it..so if people asked" how are you", that got a fine reply even if I felt like death warmed up and changed the subject.
I have been on this road for over 20 years now and mine little monster keeps travling without a passport or visa. So I now don't tell people what's going on only close close friends. That way I don't have to deal with this now.
Change the subject avoid the "C" at all costs, ask them questions about them..but be warned that could be a dangerous subject depending on the individual.
Avoid people that are doing your head space in.
Or tell them your fedup with their comments and if they can't treat you like a normal indivual don't say anything. Your real friends will understand.
And lastly your an amazing person don't forget that. Chin up.
Maybe a new sport might be order of the day.
Boxing, judo 
