Starting to avoid people because of the silly things they say!!

Thank you Shelly55, 6 days post op today. A bit bruised and battered but its manageable. Nice to be surrounded by people who are taking good care of me and not pretending to understand what what I'm going through that's what you get with a very squeamish parter and teenage daughter x

Take care Franny.  Glad you are getting good care.  My hubby is squeamish too but a good care giver anyway.  Before my surgery I would watch lumpectomy on YouTube and he would leave the room.  Oh well all of us are different.  Since I was an RN for years I like all the medical stuff.  Can be overwhelming for me too.  So many people think that just because you are a nurse that you will be able to handle it easier but not so.  
take care and wishing you a good recovery.

Barbara

Thank you Barbara, I know exactly what your saying just because you work in health care its so much easier but its not. I work in theatres and it makes it much worse! I knew all my team and they saw me in my most vulnerable state. Although everyone has been amazing doesn't take the fear away. Until I got diagnosed I didn't realise how intense and relentless the appointments and procedures would be. I'm sure this will make me a better practitioner when I'm back to work and It's definitely changed me x

I am maybe being over sensitive, but really just need to rant ……….

I had a mastectomy 4 weeks ago and will find out on Friday if they found cancer in my lymph nodes. I have been through chemo & will  probably need radio therapy. 

My sister sent me a message last night to remind me to wear pink  today as it is breast cancer awareness day ! 
Ignoring the fact that she is in fact a month early , I am just  finding this slightly insensitive. 
As she is on holiday just now, I just replied with no it’s not & sent her a link with the correct day. She is not known for tact at the best of times. 
Everyone tells me how strong I am but for some reason this  has really got to me. 

Thank you for allowing me a bit of a moan 

Interesting to know which single day folks think is (Primary) Breast Cancer awareness day. It's actually the entire month of October.
I'd be tempted to advise her that if she wishes to concentrate on a single day she does some research on Secondary Breast Cancer [SBC]. The sole day in October dedicated to SBC is Thursday 13.October. And the Make 2nds Count charity is trying to raise awareness with a "SHINE A LIGHT ON SECONDARIES" campaign. They'd like us to light up in purple, not pink, that day. (www.make2ndscount.co.uk/)
My fingers are crossed tightly that your lymph nodes are clear.

I am shaking my head at her thinking you need to be reminded about anything related to breast cancer. It's not even about tact, it's her completely not getting any of it, and the clumsy attempt at patronising you.

Hi Franny, I totally understand and agree wholeheartedly.  In fact I think it can be more difficult in some ways as we have higher expectations etc.  I live in Florida so I think you mean OR when you say theatre.  Is that right? Theatre sounds betting.

I am sure that all your team is anxious to see you again and have you back working with them.  Your other family.  
Barbara

Hi Barbara,

Yes OR for you and they mostly are a pretty amazing extra family. I agree our expectations are higher, I even thought I might recovery flawlessly but as I find myself in bed after another 2hr nap I'not so sure  x

Nap sounds good to me too.  Enjoy.

Hi, I agree people  are so incentive.   Someone  asked my husband  if his wife was still  with us.  Can you imagine  what he was like  when he came home. He was so upset he had to tell me, even though he didn't  want to upset me.  I said I wasn't  upset  (even though  I was).  And that he had to treat them as stupid.  Its hard enough  fir him, without stupid people