Starting to avoid people because of the silly things they say!!

All welcome here, as you say I’m sure people with all cancers experience similar things although I’d agree, breast cancer does seem to attract some humdingers, yes maybe you’re right, people trying to reassure themselves, etc. 

Shelly55 its not a close friend no but someone I have known about the village for 8 years or so, it was one of those ‘out before he thought it through’ comments, you know when someone looks as surprised as you they’ve said it!  The shocked look on his own face made me giggle all day x

Many years ago, before social media, mobiles etc people had to ring you to find out what's going on.  My mother had bowel cancer, a late diagnosis and a couple of people must have heard a rumour so rang a few times to ask how my mother was.  I was so tempted to say 'still dying"!  

At least it made you laugh! One of the best comments I had to make me laugh was a male best friend growing up who is now bad. When I finally found out I didn’t have to have chemo he said ahhh I was hoping to have another baldy like me, you have to joke sometimes don’t you? Xx

You really do, it’s the only way through xx

I’m sure it did, I quite liked mine shaved but not so keen on the totally bald  it’s growing back now and I can’t wait for it to get longer!   I went back to work and my colleagues were fine but the kids were like, what have you done to your hair?! Had some right funny conversations, they’re 9 and 10, very funny how they have different approaches to trying to find out why I went so short x

Haha, Anna.... years ago, my father had surgery, something to do with his thyroid. The incision was horizontal, all the way across his throat. When my then 5 years old cousin saw it for the first time, and knowing his uncle has just been through surgery, his eyes opened really wide, and he asked, "Uncle, did they take your head off and then put it back on?"

Brilliant! X

I know this thread has been going for months now but today someone quoted me John Lennon: "It will be ok in the end, and if it's not ok, it's not the end."

I really thought 'what the hell?!!!!' This might be good in dealing with life's temporary challenges but not sure it's appropriate for what could be a life or death situation! 

I can't say that to her so I'm sharing it here...

Blimey that’s a bit rough .  I too have had lots of really daft things said . One friend asked how chemo was going I told her it’s a bit rough right now . She replied it’s worth doing as it gave a colleague 5 years . I was hoping for more than that