Just over 3 weeks ago I had breast conserving surgery, wire guided, sacrifice of nipple, breast reduction and lift. They removed 700g leaving about 20%, which will shrink as there is a big lump of something in it they called 'swelling'. I have radiotherapy to look forwards too yet which may well shrink it some more.
I have been offered a 'breast reduction and lift' on the other side some time in the future (when they know how much what's left shrank) to even things up. When asked how long a wait they didn't know, I suggested to them perhaps after they caught up on the backlog I might get in the queue, so it could be 6 months, they didn't disagree.
If I were to have a breast reduction I certainly wouldn't chose to be left with so little, but am being asked to do so on the 'good' breast, so they will be even. My operation was planned ahead of time, but when on the ward I was presented with a 'new' much more drastic plan and I feel very manipulated and pushed into a larger surgery than I would have accepted had I had time to consider. I would rather have had a mastectomy and reconstruction, then with a smaller reduction and lift on the other side to match. This was never presented as a 'good' option even when I suggested it. They did an excellent job on what they did, don't get me wrong - but I don't think it was the right option for me long term.
Am I as I have been believing for the last 3 weeks or so, stuck in a hell hole of being massively uneven for abt 6 months, then to be lucky enough to be about an A cup both sides for the rest of my life? I have seen fat men with bigger breasts, like "Bob The Drag Queen" for any who watch Drag Race. Or are there reconstruction options for 'lumpectomys' as there are for mastectomies? I realise that I seem to be coping badly in comparison to most posters here, and feel ashamed of this whining post, but I would like to know if anyone has ideas about my options.
Hi Tlania
No need to be ashamed of telling us how you are feeling and I certainly wouldn't consider this a whining post. You are entitled to have a vent about how you are feeling about something that you feel pushed into by your surgeon. This journey is hard enough without being manipulated and pushed into something you don't want.
Best of luck with your radiotherapy, it's not as hard as chemo though there are some possible side effects which if not already will be explained to you before you start treatment.
Best wishes and don't be afraid to vent whenever you feel like it.
Daisy53 xx
