Diagnosed with grade 2 IDC, ER+ last Friday. 3cm lump and one lymph node involved (biopsied same time as lump). Initial indication is that treatment will be chemo to shrink tumour, followed by surgery, followed by radiotherapy then meds. I got confused over grade and stage and now understand I don’t know the stage yet!
I’ve used the doctors words of “very treatable” in telling my sons, family and friends but now I have the thought going round in my head that if it’s spread it might be a different story - scared my sons will think I’ve tried to pull the wool over their eyes. CT scan on Friday and now all I’m thinking about is being riddled with it.
My first reaction was the fear of chemo, now the fear is that it can’t start soon enough....
Hi NBI, so sorry that you find yourself here, I have a similar diagnosis. Listen to your specialist, it is highly treatable. I have had MX and lymph clearance, awaiting start of chemo. When you get your treatment plan things will feel a bit better. The wait for scans and results is the worst, try and take one day at a time. I try and keep my mind in the present. Tell yourslef you are strong and will get through this with the love and help of your family. If you have any questions I will try and help. Big virtual hugs. Anna x sorry i meant to say they often do not give a stage anymore. I have not had one. Just grade 2 like you.
Thank you so much for your reply Anna, and for your wise words! I think you’re right and that I will feel better once I have a plan and dates. This last month has been all about waiting - for a clinic appointment, for biopsy results - and my mind has been working overtime.
Did you have CT and MRI too?
Sorry we meet in these circumstances too. Hope you get your dates sorted soon xx
I had a full body CT with contrast dye and a full bone scan with dye. Not MRI , not sure why. Two weeks wait for results, all clear. 2 of 13 lymph nodes had cancer. First oncology is tomorrow over the phone. Our brain is our worst enemy and no one can really understand unless they have been there. My partner keeps saying we could all be knocked down by a bus tomorrow. Take care, bug hugs. x
I got my diagnosis yesterday. Grade 2 and in the lymph node. Having scan and MRI tomorrow. Chemo then surgery. Like you I just want you get on with it and struggle to stop my brain going into overdrive. I am scared because its the unknown and never thought I would be here. BUT I will get through this and so will you. Sending you lots of good wishes and a virtual hug. Take care x
Sorry to hear that but good your scans have been arranged quickly, mine are Friday and next Tuesday. Big virtual hug to you too xx
Sorry to “meet” like this CeeCee88. Things seem to be moving at pace - which is good I guess - but it’s quite overwhelming. Netax2’s advice was sound, I do feel better knowing my treatment plan and dates.I hope you get the same soon. Big virtual hugs xx
Hi I feel the same and although my oncologist was very reassuring thats its treatable I am so scared that it has spread everywhere. I am struggling to be positive and am sitting here tonight feeling awful. You are not alone feeling the way you are. I just can't believe I have cancer but the why not me when its so prevalent .
Sorry just feeling sorry for myself tonight.
Sending you best wishes x
I’ve been up and down. Every phone call, every appointment letter brings new dread. But then I remind myself it’s all with the intention of helping me get better. Tonight I’m going to knock myself out with a bath, the last episode of The Drowning and two big mugs of Pukka sleepy time tea. Has worked so far - have to keep watching the previous night’s episode on catch up the next day. I hope you get some rest tonight xx
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