Surgery Saturday being a wuss...

Hi 

You aren’t rambling utter nonsense - you are trying to process the whole diagnosis and the madness of feeling really well but having something really serious happening to you, there is no surprise you are feeling bewildered by it all, particularly when you are trying to protect your loved ones too. It is a small operation, but for me that made it even more mad , I pictured having cancer as me being in a hospital bed for weeks (due to the seriousness of it all) yet it was a day case surgery (first time, and generally is the only time for most women) 

My advise - take each step at a time, just concentrate on the surgery and recovery, and try and set aside some time each day to let yourself go and think about the cancer and it’s effect on your life, the rest of the time try and carry on as normal. Have a notebook that you can jot things down in as you think of them , and deal with those thoughts in your set time.

Accept all help, you may not feel you need it but you might do, and the person offering will feel much happier being able to help you. Try and keep a sense of humour, my husband was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks after me and I think we would have gone mad if we hadn’t been able to laugh , others must have thought we had actually gone mad, but darent say anything to us! 

Saturday will come around soon enough, but make sure you have some treats lined up, books to read, films to watch, chocolates to eat etc.

Most of all be kind to yourself - there are no medals for being brave and carrying on, and those around us are very quick to forget our situation , mostly because they want everything to be back to normal, but we know that will never happen, we will just find a new one.

Its me who is rambling now !

Take care and very best wishes for Saturday

Jo x

Hi , you’re definitely  not a wuss and feel free to rant and rave here!! A cancer diagnosis is horrible and you’re allowed to be angry and upset. And I think one key thing in what you’ve said is about feeling out of control. Hopefully once the uncertainty of the op is over and done with, and once you’ve got your results and a treatment plan, you’ll feel a bit more in control. 
All the best for Saturday, it’ll be here before you know it and you’ll be taking the first step in ridding yourself of the beast. 
And btw your dog looks adorable (on your profile)!! Our fur babies are so important and never tell us to stop worrying about nothing!! Just to add I think it’s VERY common to imagine at this stage that every ache and pain is a sign that the cancer has spread everywhere. You do gradually learn to trust your body and your judgement again. 
Sending love and a big virtual hug, HFxx

Hi

Its far better to get those emotions out in the open rather than bottle them up so look at this as another success I say.  You're in good hands with your surgeon though I'm not going to any spa's you have been to in the past...ha!

You've got the right attitude of just getting on with it and yes, I promise it will get more manageable and I really hope you do seize this 'opportunity' (!!) to indulge in some quality R&R, you deserve it.

Good luck for tomorrow, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about afterwards...

I think i made it to 10pm last night before knackeredness got the better of me - a late night for me in Dullsville.

Sam X

Hello..thank you and HNY x this time tomorrow will all be over with and I will have hopefully stopped being a loon.. though I doubt it somehow. Just asked the dog if he fancies coming with... yup that’s the kinda level we are talking!!

chucking cold gear on and going off for a stomp about in the cold. Keep in touch and thanks again xx

Hello HF x I so hope to feel more in control as this reaction is very not me. I’ve had heaps of stress this last year and I think this news was the straw that knackered the poor camel. I can’t be doing with poor little old me but I’m being very poor little old me!! Everyone else on this forum seems to have it very much together so I’m a tad embarrassed/ embarrassing and will prob do the same tomorrow and react like an adolescent rather than a grown adult!!

• the fur baby... Humphrey is a total saviour, he’s bonkers and full of beans and fun. He deffo arrived at the right time. He’s just discovered and is very confused by mirrors despite my best coaching!!

thank you so much for your note and help, it’s much appreciated. Xx

Hi jo.. love your name! Thanks for your reply and support and for not thinking I’m talking utter nonsense. I keep telling myself it’s a small operation and I’m only there overnight as no one at home.. hence the spa break thoughts!!  
my ex husband was diagnosed a couple of months before me, we’re still amicable for kids sake so you and I and the boys obviously drew the lucky straws!  I love the laughing bit, it’s very much needed and glad you had a giggle partner!!   I think you’re right about everyone else, I know they try to help by saying it’s all going to fine bla bla bla but I’m probably being really ungrateful and very low on emotional intelligence but it really irritates me. We have to crack on and deal with it and people around trying to “fix” the fear is unhelpful, I guess as you say they want things back to normal which can’t be done. 
I read your profile and you have been playing this game for a fair while now and it’s positive and inspiring despite the issues you dealt with. Good on you Mrs flat tummy !! 
talk again soon, thank you so much xx

Just wanted to pop on and wish you all the best for tomorrow. By this time tomorrow your cancer will have been removed and the rest of your treatment will just be belts and braces.The staff at your unit will take very good care of you and before long you will be on your way back home. Once there try and take it all one step at a time and listen to your body and rest as much as possible at least for the first few days. Sending you big hugs xx

Can I just say good luck for tomorrow and we will all be thinking of you!  Im sure everyone who has been through it has all had the same emotions and fears and I know I will also have them when my time comes.  For me thought, it is just a hurdle to get over to get this behind me and I'm just going to close my eyes and let them get on with it!  Like Kwissy said, this time tomorrow.........Lucky you!         Sending virtual hugs though, cos all optimism aside, I know you're scared.  Please let us know how you get on xxx

Hi  and another ‘good luck’ for tomorrow, will be thinking of you. And just to add, I am one of these weird people who actually enjoy the anaesthetic drugs so I hope you will too! And afterwards don’t be a hero, take the painkillers for as long as you need to. 
Keep us posted when you can, love and hugs, HFxx

So very kind thank you so much xx