My op

Hi ,

Wanted to pop in quickly, I’m about to go out but wanted to extend a warm welcome to you. Sorry you find yourself here but hopefully you’ll find lots of support and shared experiences. You won’t be alone.
Getting a breast cancer diagnosis is very scary, the waiting around for results and dates is tortuous, and the treatments aren’t the way we would choose to spend our time, but it sounds like things are moving forwards for you. 
I’m sure others will pop in soon, I’ll check again when I’m back home, but in the meantime be reassured that there are lots of us here at various stages of treatment, some years down the line. Breast cancer is very treatable these days. Keep posting and ask questions, stay away from Dr Google whose information is often out of date if not simply wrong! 
Sending love and gentle hugs, HFxx

Thank you so much I’ll wait to hear from you

Hello Ed48

I was so frightened when I was diagnosed. I've had chemo (started in Jan of this year) surgery which was lumpectomy and lymph node clearance and I'm now waiting for radiotherapy. I'm here if you need to talk. Its terrifying as it's the unknown but once you get started you will feel more positive.

Love julie 

Hi 

I too had nipple removed and lymph node.  One node was positive so had full armpit clearance of 23.  So 27 in all.  I am grade 3 Oest  and prog positive .  I am due my 4th chemo next week and then will start hormone blockers.  I was diagnosed in Jan this year so most of my treatments etc have been on my own due to covid which is hard.  Each step is hard but you find strength from somewhere. I have surprised myself but believe me I cry a lot and still have days when I wonder if I'll make 50.  Crying is no shame and fear is not shame but you will get through this dark time because we have to.  The guys on here will cheer you on and cry with you because we are all living it each day and forever.  You can be honest on here and not be judged.  You will gain scars along the way but these are your proof of battle and that you fought and are fighting.   Love to you warrior x

Hi Ed, I am further down the line and about to start radiotherapy. My fear and anxiety has subsided somewhat and these days I generally feel more in touch with myself and proud of my inner strength that I never knew was there.

Your fear is only natural, and like everything it will pass. Be kind to yourself, spend time in nature and breath. Qi Gong really helped me to release and let go of inner tensions as well as clearing the mind of negative chatter. 
Take care and good luck x

Thank you so much for replying I feel at the moment it’s not me still , it’s like watching someone else if you get me , I’m a grade two invasive cancer b5b ER positive and Her1+ negative my lymph node is metastatic b5b I honestly don’t have a clue what that means but my cancer is attached to my nipple , I’ve had pain in my right boob every other month but I blamed it on my peri menopause then I found a lump I check my boobs a lot as they are very painful but more my right , I had 7 biopsy’s on my own which was the worse thing I’ve ever done , I’ve got my op on the 24th of July and I’ve got a Covid test on the 22nd so I’m isolating, I’ve never been in hospital for an op I’ve had three children but I’ve never really stayed in , I’m just terrified I feel like I’m moaning sorry xx 

Hi again , can see others are rallying round, you never need to apologise for moaning here. Feel free to rant and rave, most of us have at some point! And yes I have sometimes felt like a horrified observer, particularly in the early days. Probably a way of coping with the enormity of it all. 
Try not to worry about the op (easily said I know), in my case I actually quite like an anaesthetic! Do you know if you’ll have to stay in? Many people have their surgery as day patients but like everything there’s no hard and fast rule. The biopsies are horrible, I had more pain with them than after the op. Love and hugs, HFxx

I can feel your distress. I know how devastating it feels and feeling as though it’s happening to someone else, it can feel surreal.  I felt so alone despite words of love and support from well meaning friends and family,  (was in lockdown at time of diagnosis). The operation wasn’t nearly as bad as the biopsies, and the nurses will make you feel cared for. 
You wonder how on earth you’ll get through it but somehow you do, having good days and bad but go with the flow and be kind to yourself x

Hi....you have come to the right place! It is such a frightening time, the unknown, the panic, the waiting....

But you do find a strength from somewhere...and support from not only those of this chat room, but friends and family...and from people you didn’t expect...

Yes, this time is probably the hardest...but I promise you it does get better. I never thought that I would come to a website like this for support from strangers. I am soooo glad I did, it made me realise that I was not alone. I have ranted, and cried along with my friends on here. I have never met them but they have been there for me night and day either dishing out advice or sending virtual hugs. 

Take each hour, each day as it comes. Try and distract yourself either in a book or watching tv, or whatever hobby you may have. Try to get outdoors for a breathe of fresh air...

Take care...and keep in touch. We are here.

Omg , just wow ,I’m absolutely thrilled at the reply’s everyone has sent me , yes I do feel alone I’m avoiding normal tv sounds daft but the cancer adverts seem more in my face as normal and people passing away from this horrible thing ! They say I’m in as a day patient but obviously things could change , do I need to buy anything like a special bra or anything that I’d benefit from to heal , I’m having radiotherapy too , and they said I might have chemo too but there not sure yet I’m taking tamoxifen which is causing me to have hot flushes and at times I feel really sick xx