Hi everyone, I am a dad in my 60’s and my daughter is in her mid 30’s. She has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer (type and severity is unknown as of yet, or she is keeping it from me) She has had her CT scan and will be getting her results in two days. Needless to say I am devastated and I am not coping as well as my daughter (although she is obviously very scared) or my wife. I know this post seems to be all me, me, me but any help through conversation that might help to put me at ease would be greatly appreciated.
Good afternoon,
Sorry your daughter has had this news, I can only talk from my own experience but it took me along time to admit to myself let alone others that I actually had cancer. I told my daughter I had a bad infection and just painted on a smile. When I was diagnosed a second time it was my sister that sat me down and said can we call it what it is now.
There are so many options and things can move fast, there is a lot to process. I think reaching out for support and advice and making sure she knows you are there is a good place to start. A good cuddle probably won’t go a miss either. I know others with more experience and knowledge than I have will also comment, I just wanted to wish you all well. My dad had passed away before I was diagnosed and often wondered what he would have said a said and done. You’re post made me think of him, so thank you 
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Hi Joe6287 A cancer diagnosis is always scary and I think it’s particularly tough to go through it at a young age. She will be getting the best possible help. She will know a lot more after her appointment - type, grade and extent all determine the treatment and order of treatment. Most people feel a bit better about it once treatment starts. Treatment, even if she needs chemo, is doable. You are carefully managed and given supporting drugs to help manage side effects. Most people also have good outcomes - there are lots of treatments these days. Wishing you both all the best.
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