I'm wondering whether anyone had experienced issues like these & how you have dealt with them? My relationship with my partner wasn't great before my diagnosis (mainly due to lack of intimacy caused by menopausal issues). My husband was there for all my appointments but I never felt he was really 'present'. His attitude post surgery was kind of 'well you're all sorted now' & can't see why I find the annual mammograms stressful. I am also quite self-conscious about visible indentations post lumpectomy, though I know this is cosmetically minor. Because of our lack of intimacy, my husband just says things like 'Why does it matter. Nobody sees it. I don't see it'. More recently he said 'Maybe it would have been better if they'd cut it off, so you wouldn't keep worrying about it.
I do have other health problems & can understand that these things aren't easy for a partner but I find these responses quite upsetting. I appreciate this is a long post but I would appreciate any thoughts.
