Hello -from KT

Hi K-Dragon21

Yes. I understand where you are at the moment. I can only say I'm sorry to hear your news and here's a big hug from me.

My journey started in late January this year with biopsy of lump and lymph nodes. 2 weeks later/First meeting came back with lymph being clear but lump cancerous. Two/three weeks later came CT scan and results came back with cancer had spread to lungs. (The biopsy of the node missed the cancerous bit). Classed as Stage 4, incurable but treatable. I'm still in the early stages of treatment and still trying to find my feet and what this all means to me.

There is another forum that may help called 'Living with incurable cancer' forum. I find both of these help. You cans ask specifics on Breast Cancer on this forum, but sometimes the other forum can help too. They are both unique and the people on them will help and support you in anyway they can. 

I'm not a touchy/feely type person so my need for emotional support is limited. I have odd days or moments when reality hits me. I accept however I feel on any given day or moment and it's screw everyone else. If I sound angry I probably am, but I have always been a fighter. I make no compromise about my life. I learn to adapt and adopt so I can do what I want. If that means going slower then so be it.

How you feel will change over time. Processing this news doesn't happen overnight. Take your time. You will have been assigned a McMillan Breast Cancer nurse. Talk to them and find out how they can help. 

If you have questions don't hesitate to reach out.

You are not alone!

Sledge x

Hi K.Dragon21  I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis.  I had breast cancer 12 years ago and had lumpectory, chemo, radiotherapy and tamoxifen/letrazole, I was 47.  Last year went to doctor with back and hip pain and they said I had arthritis.  Turns out I have stage 4 metastatic breast cancer with mets in pelvis, spine, ribs and skull.  It is such a huge shock and it takes ages to process.  I am not sure that I have fully accepted it yet.  Like Sledge said (hi Sledge) it is treatable not curable.  The Living with incurable cancer - patients only is a brilliant forum as everyone is in the same boat and you can be supported by people who understand, it helps me tremendously.  The treatments are evolving all the time and new treatments coming out.  I am sending you a massive hug.  We are here if your want to chat.

Lee x

Thank you so much xxxxx

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