Newly diagnosed

Morning, Cathy

Sorry you have to be here again, but welcome! It is so difficult waiting for results and I truly empathise with where you are now. Along with many others, I found all the waiting for things the worst. I tried to work and then something else would come up, I needed more tests, MDT didn’t agree with plans, second opinions etc and I’d be in tears again and unable to function. I convinced myself it was the end of the world. But, and this is a big but, it does get easier. Once my surgery (which was postponed twice) finally happened I felt fine again. Sure, I was anxious about the outcome on results day, but it was nothing compared to the initial uncertainty as I felt that something was finally happening which was infinitely better than the waiting.

In a longwinded way, what I’m trying to say is, whatever the outcome things will move forward soon even though it feels like an eternity at the time. I had some MacMillan counselling to come to terms with my diagnosis and using a journal and exercising during that time helped. Also, you don’t know for certain yet, it may still not be cancer. But, if it is, you will get treatment and get through this.

Best of luck with everything. x 

Hi Cathy J, I fully understand your feelings at this stage, we were in the same spot just over a month ago when my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. it wasn't easy to try and put it at the back of our minds but talking about it with friends and family did help us. not everyone is the same and we all find our own way of dealing with things. 

My wife started Chemo a week ago and so far things haven't been too bad.

Stay strong Cathy J as there is light at the end of this tunnel 

Hello Cathy, It’s hard I know to have to wait for results but you will get through this. In my opinion it’s the worst time. My mind was running haywire and my anxiety was at a level that I have not experienced before. Hopefully you will have a good result but even if not you will be given a plan and suddenly you start to feel so much better both physically and mentally. Hugs to you .