Daughter new breast cancer diagnosis

Good morning, Cazilion

I’m sorry your daughter has received a diagnosis, it’s such a shock not only for the person diagnosed but also to those around them. This limbo stage is the worst. I found it the hardest part of the whole thing by a long way. I don’t mean to sound flippant or minimise anyone else’s experiences of treatment, but, for me, everything else was a walk in the park compared to the uncertainty and not knowing. 

I hope there isn’t too much of a wait for your daughter’s MRI. Mine was quite quick, about a week after diagnosis, but it did bring up some other issues which needed exploration so caused delays to my surgery. I know you already know this, given your professional background, but even when she has a plan there may be changes and further waits along the way so be prepared for that.

You sound like a loving mother and it’s good your daughter has that love and support around her. She needs it right now, and so do you. 

Sending love to you and your daughter. x 

Thankyou for replying so promptly … you are so right that uncertainty is difficult for her( and us )  but she is distracting herself well. She is waiting for genetic tests ( delayed until Feb) too. And fertility issues are also a concern. But main thing is to get the best treatment.  I’m confident the NHS a has good protocols for managing breast cancer.   Hope your journey is going well. Best wishes. 

Hi Cazilon,

1. The waiting is certainly the worst. Your daughter sounds strong and is already distracting herself. She will be kept busy with a 19month old.

I had genetic testing carried our. My daughter had breast cancer, now I have it. I was concerned as I have another daughter also. I had the test, it felt like ages it take weeks to come back, however thankfully I don't have the gene. I could see the relief in my youngest daughters face when I told her.

As others have said once you know type and treatment plan you have something to focus on. And you sound like a tight knit family who will be a good support to your daughter and each other.

I wish you all the best on this recovery journey xx

Thankyou that is really helpful.   I have been confused as to whether my other daughter and I need to be tested now  but will discuss with my doctor.   I think my daughter with breast cancer needs more extensive genetic tests to plan treatment. And for us it is just BRAC they need to look at .  But I’ll find out.  As you say I know my youngest daughter is worried if she has the gene. But they can do clever things now screening embryos for the gene and only implanting healthy ones.   In my heart I don’t think it’s genetic.  But we will see.   My daughter would like another child so that is another issue.  But we will cross these bridges with her   Best wishes.