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Hi Heatherlassie,

Yes, we have all been there. It's the worst time. Waiting for results is difficult. Our minds always wander to worst case scenarios. The not knowing is the worst.

As you said once you have a treatment plan your focus changes to take each step as it comes. Because you are physically fighting the cancer you fel ore in control.

Treatments are widely available, with different options available.

Try to be kind to yourself, take each step as it comes. Try to distract yourself just now with little treats. Meet with family and friends take your mind if it. 

I wish you well in your recovery xx

Hi Miss Molly,

Thank you! That's what I'm trying to do, keeping busy whether that's being out for coffee or doing crafting at home (I make bears and do miniature Lego lol). My partner is great and happy to do whatever I need to keep my mind off everything but it's so hard. Thank you again for your words of support. 

Hi there; I was in your situation a few weeks ago and I know how hard it is. It’s so traumatising as so much is unknown. I had bc confirmed and then had ct scan. Thankfully it’s no where else in my body. After the call confirming this, I suddenly felt my anxiety lessen and could relax. It’s now all systems go for my mastectomy on 24 jan and next 2 weeks we have lots of appointments with pre op etc. when people said the waiting for biopsy results was the hardest time and it gets easier…..they were right. I know feel much more in control and have date for appts and there’s a treatment plan. The treatment nowadays is fantastic. My mum had bc 30 years ago and the difference is huge. Even down to it being a day case (she was in hospital for 4 days) and now there’s technology to confirm if chemo is beneficial. I’ll be thinking of you with your results, keep busy and try and get your thoughts down on paper. Also phone the MacMillan support like or breast cancer now. I was phoning them everyday. They are lovely. Take care xx

Hi Tulip22 

Thank you so much for your kind words of support. I'm so glad you have your date for your mastectomy and treatment plan. I haven't contacted any helplines yet but should maybe do that. I'm by nature a very private person and would normally turn to my closest friends but (thankfully) none of them have been in this situation so even with best intentions wouldn't be able to relate. I hope all goes well with your op. Will be thinking of you. 

Hi HeatherLassie , I’d echo the other answers. Very natural to catastrophise, and in some ways maybe good to prepare for the worst but hope for the best. In my case I knew from the initial appointment that I had cancer but the biopsy results helped so much as it meant they could tell me a likely treatment plan. It’s so much better to know more about your particular beast and you can also prepare (physically and mentally) for what’s likely to follow. Your current limbo situation is definitely a tortuous stage. Somehow you’ll get through to your appointment on Tuesday. Will be thinking of you. Love and hugs, HFxx

Hi Happy Feet 1

Thank you so much! It definitely helps to hear that I'm not alone in thinking the very worst case scenario. I feel like I'm stuck in quicksand and not able to move. But then I look at the calendar and think how can it be almost halfway through January already? Such a weird situation to be in. 

I really do understand how you’re feeling and how hard it was to try and put a brave face on for everyone close to me when I felt in turmoil inside. You’re nearly there now and it will feel easier once you know what you’re dealing with. Sending you lots of positive vibes xx

I honestly would call them it’s just like chatting to a friend. I’ve never contacted a support line before but I was so glad I did x

I agree let it all out, don’t try to be strong at this stage: and keep talking. I found journally helped and also i found the helpline on the phone better than the text support 

Thank you, Tulip22, I'll keep that in mind as I'm sure it would do me good to chat with them.