My mam was diagnosed with stage 3 triple negative breast cancer with lymph node involvement this week. She’s 64 years old. She’s awaiting her CT results but has to wait until 3 weeks for results when she sees the oncologist.
My heart hurts and I just can’t make it make sense. My main question is what can I do to suppport her? she’s never had it easy and I just want to not screw up helping her.
Any help is greatly appreciated xx
Hi. Really sorry to hear about your mam’s diagnosis. My daughter helped me when I was diagnosed by listening to me if I needed to talk and she took me to some of my appointments. Perhaps you could ask your mam what would be the best way to support her. Also, make sure you have support for yourself too.
The waiting is hard. I found it useful to write down any questions as they occurred to me and to have someone with me at my appointments, especially when being given results or discussing treatment plans. I hope this helps and wish your mam and you all the best.
Hi, I was really grateful to have someone with me at appointments, to write down what the consultant said so that we could make sense of it afterwards. During treatment, having support at home (cooking and cleaning) was also helpful, but mostly having someone who could help me be normal, distract me and not focus on the cancer was important.
Macmillan has some useful information, I’ve put the link here for you. Supporting someone with cancer link here
best wishes
Thank you so much for this! Wishing you well with your treatment ️ xx
Thank you so much for this ️ wishing you well with your treatment! X
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