Newly diagnosed and completely overwhelmed!

Hi Flora74, I know how you feel. I was diagnosed in 2022 and have just finished all my treatment. I too would have loved to have had my mum around as I went through treatment. I was grade 3 stage 3 and had a 22mm tumour. If you click on my name you can read my journey. Staying positive is the best thing. It is hard to do but it will help you get through. I did have knock backs with some of the results but picked myself up and positive thinking again. 

Wishing you all the best

Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Hi cuffcake2000 I know I’m just starting this journey but I think that’s been the hardest part not having my Mum to hold my hand. Grieving and a cancer diagnosis at the same time is tough. 
That is great news that you have finished your treatment. 
Wishing you all the best too xx

Hi Flora74, 

I am so sorry to hear that you have found yourself in this situation! I have been through the whole painful process of being diagnosed with breast cancer and receiving treatment (chemotherapy, radiotherapy and all the extras). I also lost my Mum (and Dad) but that was a few years ago. Life is never the same after you lose your parents. I have a wonderful family and 2 grown-up children but I do feel alone sometimes and I miss my parents terribly. During my cancer journey I found myself not once and twice 'talking' to my mum and crying myself to sleep. And I am well in my 50s! The best advice I can give from personal experience is try your hardest to stay strong and positive. It does help. I know the pain you are going through is hard to imagine but things will get better with time. As for your cancer, you will feel better when you know more about it and once your treatment plan is in place. Cancer treatment nowadays is not what it used to be even 5 years ago! Have trust in your medical team, they are brilliant and aim at not only treating but curing even more advanced cancers! I wish you the very best of luck with your treatment!

Lana xx

Hi Lana65 thank you ️ 

It helps to hear from people who really understand xx

Your story sounds similar to mine. I didn't tell family until I could tell my son face to face. I was diagnosed with dcis was due a lumpectomy but then had an mri that showed more and had more biopsies. The wait over xmas was tough (keeping a happy facade for family at christmas). Then 4th Jan got results. 

I've just had a mastectomy, node removal etc. Now waiting on histology results. The worst bit is the waiting for me. The actual getting on with stuff is manageable. Everyone is different. But I think for most the waiting is the hardest. This group has been my main source of support. Someone else mentioned local support groups. Contact your macmillan nurse ask if there is one. I found 1 lady who has been through the same and she came to see me in hospital just after I saw myself for 1st time after op and was very tearful. She was amazing, so pleased she was there, just then.

You are not alone. And you clearly are still grieving the loss of your mum who you were close to. Both massive emotional impact. Look after yourself and do things that make you smile. You are no1 for now. Big hugs xxx

Hi Ricepud you are so right. The waiting is awful. I’ll find out what happens next on Thursday and then surgery should be in the next two weeks. Instead of packing bikinis I will be packing post surgery bras! It still doesn’t seem real!

But first it’s my 50th next week so I am going to celebrate the best way I can then the battle begins. 
Sending you love and strength for your treatment and recovery xx

I forgot to say the other similarity was we too had to cancel a once in a lifetime holiday we booked ages ago...1st time no kids at home. We were going to Las Vegas and LA in March. Not booking another holiday though...too many uncertainties. But when we do, it will be even better. Xxxx

I hope you manage to enjoy your 50th...you deserve it xxxxx

Absolutely! We will both have something to celebrate then xx

Hi, I’m feeling completely overwhelmed too. I am also, grieving, not for my Mum, who died a few years ago, but for my son, who hanged himself four months ago. Christmas was awful, without my son, and waiting for surgery. I had my lumpectomy a couple of weeks ago and get the histology results on Thursday. I got a message from someone today, saying she was attached to my GP practice and was my cancer car coordinator and was available to help me through my cancer journey. This was scary as I haven’t had the results yet. I am feeling so sad. I wish you well and send hugs.