New diagnosis stress & coping

I’ve just been diagnosed as well with lobular cancer. Last Thursday.  You poor thing having to deal with other relatives as well. Please try not to worry and keep keeping yourself busy. I hate the waiting. I just want it all done with. I’ve got to wait for an MRI scan  and then wait for the results. Then have my op and then radiation. Chemo apparently is not suitable for lobular cancer so that’s a positive thing. Speak to your allocated nurse about your concerns. They are so lovely. Just keep posting on here as well as the lovely brave ladies are very supportive. You are not on your own and we can do this!! Stay strong. Sending love light and hugs. Xxx 

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis and the stress with yourself and family x this will sound crazy but as the weeks go along you almost accept it, and pick yourself back up! Don’t know if it’s a woman thing but it’s like yourself taking back some control x I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma 30th June after waiting 7 weeks for my biopsy results! I then waited 2 weeks for MRI then 4 weeks for results. Waited a further 4 weeks for lumpectomy and now a further 5 weeks for results! 
At first I felt I was climbing the walls with stress and anxiety and couldn’t go back to work due my state of mind. Now I’m at the stage of go with the flow as there is nothing I can do to make appointments any quicker. Think my point is let’s try and be positive (as we can)! We have been diagnosed which is the good news (hard to believe but at least it’s been found) together we will all get through this and the procedures and tests they now do is absolutely amazing. I found that keeping talking to people and this website will help massively. Ask away and let your feelings out as there is always someone on her to help x x x x

Thanks for the lovely response and I’m sorry that you’re going through this too. Sounds like exactly the same treatment pathway, pending MRI results. I had my MRI last Thursday. Lovely friends & partner helping although sadly my breast care nurse is a form filler who doesn’t really do emotions. All the radiographers and doctors have been lovely though. My dog is a great distraction! Glad to have found this forum & sending you loads of good wishes xx

Thanks so much for the kind words. Everyone is being super kind, my colleagues have been amazing & I’ve definitely been feeling the love but there’s nothing quite like talking to people who are also going through it. That’s a lot of waiting for you. I’m glad you’ve been able to have your op and I’ll be keeping fingers and toes crossed for a clear result for you. I’m hoping you’re right & I’ll get better at the waiting. I think it’s the additional family stresses that are taking me out at the knees. Just back from a swim & it always helps me. Sending loads of good wishes xx

Sending you big hugs and glad to hear you’ve been swimming and getting those endorphins going x thank you for the message and I will also have everything crossed, as I think we all do x hope time does help you and sending best wishes to your family xxxx

What a lovely  and sensible reply. We are all stronger than we realise! I am thinking this is a huge test for me and I will pass! With distinction!

I am so sorry you have been diagnosed.  Mine is invasive ductal, but caught early and small.  Have had two lumpectomies so far and get results today for the second time.  Fingers crossed for clear margins.  I know the waiting is the worse part, but you do get there in the end. As the others have said keep busy and the swimming is a great relaxing thing to do as it takes your mind off all of this.  I can also relate to how you feel with having family going through the same thing.  I have two siblings fighting their own cancer battles at this time, and it is hard to deal with sometimes.  But all we can do is try and stay as positive as we can and do use this forum.  It is very supportive and has helped me a lot.  I wish you all the very best for your treatment plan.  Stay strong.  Sending hugs xx 

Hi Orchid23 have everything crossed for you today, will be thinking of you x x x 

Thank you for the lovely message and for sharing some of your story. I am so sorry that you also have a stressful family situation and I really hope that all went as well as it could for you today xx

Great news Ladies, got all clear margins this time.  It’s such a relief.  Time to celebrate that news .  Still have to see radiologist. But he will decide if I still need radiotherapy or not.  Will go with whatever he decides.  I start the Letrozole pills tomorrow.  So hope they are not too bad.  Wish you all well with your treatment xx