Children of single parent dying

Hi Bettb welcome to the forum and that sounds like a very difficult situation that has developed for you all.  Its so challenging as it is your siblings choice/decision to make who they leave their children with in the event of their death. Whilst I accept that you are not fully on board with that choice they are making. Can you speak to them re this and express how you feel to them.  It may be that even if it is not what you want  this may be what happens if your sister has made these  arrangements for her child/children. I dont know enough about all this to answer with any certainty but it may be worth having  this conversation with your sister in the first instance. 

It is hard I'm sure I was diagnosed wit bc but nw n me nodes n need removed.howeva hard it is ur sisters decision is what matters.u need 2 just support n b there 4 u I know u may Ave concerns but it is her child n if that what she thinks is best than there nt much u can say but b supportive.my son is autistic n non verbal n that design is 1 the hardest 1 a parent will Eva Ave 2 make.mayb she thinks she would b a burden on u,whatever her choice just make sure the child knows as children know alot more than we gave them credit 4!.I sendin me love n support 2 u but please dnt fall out at ti's difficult time n both ur lives.mayb speak 2 sister n tell how r feelin n ur concerns maybe that will help?stay strong love n hugs xx

I 2 am n the same position as far as avin siblings,but I can understand where u sister is comin 4m. only family I Ave is me neice n sister n me sister is ill herself.it is a very hard long rough out process who 2 leave ur child wit.no matter the age family or any1!! Do u sister know how u really feel? U also need support 2 accept what is appearing n how 2 deal wit everything as it difficult n at times dnt always same the rite thing as people dnt realise the stress n how tires u can b but still need 2 keep goin as u Ave children n just can not just sit down 2 relax or go bed Ave a hour it is exhausting. I hope u can resolve it wit u sister n all best 4 ur family wish u the best xxx