Newly diagnosed

HI Hilfe23

Thank you for your best wishes it means a lot that so many people have taken the time to reply.

Best wishes

13Poppy04 xx

Hi Plantlover, it would be lovely to stay in touch. My second op is on the 3rd Nov too. I will let you know how things go. Are you having a lumpectomy? You can click on my name and see my journey so far. I found that it can be helpful as you can find other people who have similar diagnosis’s.

All the best for your op, not long for us to wait. 
Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Hi 13Poppy04, when I found out my husband was with me. We have 2 kids 12 & 15 and we told them as soon as we got home and we have kept them informed all along. Both of us have also told family, friends and work colleagues same time as we found out too. Although I was anxious about it I did find telling them helped. Everyone has been so supportive and offering help if we need it. It can be hard going at times and to know they are there and can help too is great. There is no right or wrong time to tell people, you can do that when you are ready. And no it’s definitely not weird. 
All the best for your next steps along on your journey

Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Hi Cuffcake2000.

My husband was with me as well, I will tell family and friends at some point but I just need to get my head round it all. I only found out yesterday so maybe I need time for it to sink in.

How did your kids react?

Youngest grandaughter is 16 and lost her dad to cancer 18 months ago she is still depressed... any advice on broaching the subject with her?

How are you doing? What stage of treatment are you at or have you finished?

1. I have my assessment for surgery on tuesday so it wont be long before I go in.

Best wishes

13Poppy04

Hi Cuffcake! 

I read your profile bio. Very moving.  I will try to write one soon.  I will let you know how it goes, and the other ladies here too.

Stillanoptimistic, we will go through this together. When is your sur? I'm having a lumpectomy on. Nov 3rd.

13Poppy04,  It's so overwhelming to find out we have cancer. I send you a big hug. Do you have a date for your surgery?

Hi 13Poppy04,

Yes, we need time to process. In my case, I knew it was very likely I had cancer from the moment I had my biopsy. The team couldn't tell with 100% certain untill the results, but they knew something wasn't right. I spent the two weeks before the results preparing for the news. After a week or so I told a few people that I was waiting on my biopsy results. In my case I needed to know three was going to be someone to help if I needed it. I have a 6 and a 2 year old, so I am very worried about them. My husband and I don't have family nearby. I was very somehow relieved when my friends knew and offered helped. 

It's easier to say it to people now, but I find tricky to see how people react and to receive stories and advice from them. I also noticed that I have time to get over the shock, but for some of my close friends is new and they have called me very worried. They seem to be still in shock. 

I know they all care, but once you tell people they will start to call and write and ask lots of questions. It's wise to take time. Process as much as you ca on your own. You will know when you want to tell people.

I'm sorry your family is going through a loss. It must be so hard for your granddaughter. Hopefully you will find a way. I don't know your granddaughters age, but someone on a Facebook I am, said journaling help her children. They are many journals on Amazon. Mine are still little. I have got some books to read with them. 

I wish you peace and strength in this time ️

Hi 13Poppy04,  we were open with them right from the start as I didn’t want to hide anything. That would have been very difficult as my head was all over the place. I think they were shocked, our eldest was strong and seemed to know more about cancer than I had thought. He has stayed strong throughout so far. Our youngest understands but I think he is more worried and does his best to keep strong and not show he is more worried than his brother. They both are busy with school so I’m hoping that they will continue like that throughout my treatment.
I’m so sorry to hear your granddaughter lost her Dad to cancer. I don’t really know what the best approach would be. It’s going to be a difficult conversation to have with her and lots of reminders of what has happened in the past. Maybe have a chat with your BCN or even an online chat with the MacMillan support team they might be able to advise the best way to approach this.

I am awaiting a second op to remove lymph nodes as one of my sentinel ones removed showed up positive for cells. This is on 3rd Nov. If you click on my name it will take you to my biography and you can see how my journey has been. I still have a way to go on my journey, chemo, radiotherapy and hormone treatment.

Good luck with your assessment on Tuesday hope they can give you a date for your surgery. 
Hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Cuffcake, and the rest of the ladies in this post. I have written on my bio, as part of my profile, but maybe we can all do a blog here on the McMillan page. I saw a few and they were helpful. It's on the profile too, but under blog posts. It's a bit  easier to see the journey of each person. It might be good to write whatever we are thinking and feeling. 

Hi Plantlover, it’s brilliant you have added your biography too, it’s amazing how similar we are in the diagnosis. I’m 51 but will be 52 just after our ops. I will have a look at the blog, I’m not very good at these things but I will give it a go, maybe you will have to start us off then I can follow.  I’ve only just started to fathom Instagram. 
Take care hugs from cuffcake x x x x x

Instagram is probably better that the blog, to be honest. I was thinking to keep the blog just for this community, for those who are struggling with cancer, and mainly for me. I want to be honest at times, and I don't want to show it to others. I won't be mean, I just know that people here understand. This is the blog link 

community.macmillan.org.uk/.../life-with-triple-positive-breast-cancer

If any of you want to do it, you have to go into the "Online Community" then go to "Blogs" and "create a blog" Once you create a post, you can change the date to a previous date if the event happened before. That will be on the "options" once you click on "create post" 

 i had to use a computer to start the blog, since I wanted to write many posts. Maybe I will use my Instagram too. I do have more friends on Facebook, but I haven't shared my news with all people yet, just those close to me. 

Well, if any of you decides to have a blog or an account for your cancer journey, please share it here. I would love to see how you are doing.