Journey so far

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Hello

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I was diagnosed late December 2021 & told that I would have surgery within 4 weeks. I was diagnosed with 1 ER positive invasive tumor and a probable 2nd, unfortunately the biopsy on my 2nd tumour was inconclusive, so I was told that I would have to undergo a 2nd biopsy for confirmation. Following my 2nd biopsy I suffered 2 cancelled clinic appointments. I was finally seen by my consultant at the end of January & I finally got the confirmation that I did have a 2nd ER positive tumour. I was advised to have a lumpectomy and yet again i was told surgery within 4 weeks. All went quite for a while & I hadn't heard anything either by letter or my breast nurse,  I began feeling fed up with waiting I telephoned the hospital only to be told that I had been penciled in for March. This made me very anxious and worried, so out of sheer fear I used all of my savings to pay my NHS surgeon to operate on me privately, on a Saturday 10 days later for a charge of over six thousand pounds. 2 weeks after my surgery, my surgeon told me that he didn't get clear margins and that he would need to operate on me again but he said he would refer me back to himself on the NHS so I didn't have to pay again.  4 weeks later I was back in surgery. My last surgery was on 17th March. I have today found out that my 5 days worth of Radiation does not start until 16th May which is12 weeks after my main surgery and over 8 weeks since my shave operation in March. The total length of time from diagnosis to starting radiation treatment will be five months.  Is this generally the length of time that most people tend to wait or have I just been very unlucky time wise? How have other people's experiences been please. 

  • Hi Jelly Tots,

    So sorry to hear your story, it must have been very difficult for you.

    I'm still in the waiting stage, I was diagnosed with stage 2 just over a month ago but am MRI showed 3 other areas that need investigating. Since my MRI it feels that things have gone painfully slowly, I am due more biopsies next week but this is 4 weeks since the MRI. 

    I have had one cancelled appointment (so far) which I suspect was COVID related. It seems like the breast care centers are under immense pressure which makes anyone with any complications have to wait longer.

    Wishing you all the best for the next stage of your treatment.

  • Hi Jelly tots

    Sorry to read about your experience. I am newly diagnosed 2.5 weeks ago so I don't know how long people usually have to wait but this does seem a long wait especially between diagnosis and your op (and that's even with you paying for op to speed it up). I'm waiting for plan and treatment to start.

    Waiting is awful. Wishing you all the best

    Stripey x

  • Thank you so much for your reply.  The waiting definitely is the worst part & I panicked feeling like I was falling through every safety net. I felt like I was just playing this horrendous game of snakes and ladders at the breast care centre. Just waiting now for the radiation treatment to start & then hopefully start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck with your journey and I truly hope that things get better for you very soon xxx 

  • Thank you Strpey, for your kind words and I hope your journey goes well for you!! 

    Good luck and wishing you a the very best also. XXX

  • It sounds bad that you had such a long wait for the surgery and had to pay.  I got my first surgery five weeks after biopsy. 

    The breast care nurse told me that radiotherapy would be 6 to.8 weeks after surgery to allow for wound healing? ( I haven't got that far yet I'm waiting for my second surgery. 

    Maybe complain to PALS at the hospital you shouldn't have to pay for cancer treatment. 

    Xx

  • I feel your pain about the waiting, the worst bit, I was a more straightforward case, it may also be where you live, here in South Wales I was diagnosed just after Christmas, and have had both my op and radiotherapy. I was going to go privately but it was quicker by NHS! Do you know if yours is a slow growing cancer - that could be why no rush? Keep talking, let off steam here it seems like many listen, I hope you hear soon

  • If you now have clear margins, I wouldn't worry too much. I think the time from the second surgery is the more important one. If its about 8 weeks, give or take I wouldn't worry too much. I do understand your frustration though and waiting is the hardest part x

  • Thank you for your reply Zephyr. Yes I've finally got clear margins following 2nd surgery.  My radiation treatment will start just over 8 weeks post 2nd surgery and 12 weeks post 1st. I guess I'm panicking about any little gremlins that could have been left behind & I'm wanting to get zapped as soon as possible. I will be 5 months in from diagnosis to the start of radiation so looking forward to it and finally getting a bit of piece of mind. I've gone through the journey so far with very little help from my breast nurse, despite her knowing that my mother is end stage cancer xxx

  • Hi SewErica and thank you for your reply. I think I will move to South Wales!!. Yes I agree its probably about where you live. I put my experience down to living in Cheshire. I know a lady with a similar experience to yours and she also lives in a different area from myself.  Wishing you well and thank you  once again xxx

  • Thank you Bobbiboo and yes I fully agree that I shouldn't have to pay for my operation and I guess desperate people do desperate things. I've spent the last year & a half caring for my mother with stage 4 cancer and my diagnosis hit me very hard. Its been a very difficult time for me and a very desperate time. I've gone through the hospital legal team requesting to have all copies of everything written down about me from my diagnosis to prognosis to case notes written about me in their multi disciplinary meetings and the legal team have 30 days to respond. Not sure what I will do once I have got all my information. One thing is for sure, I definitely don't want others to go through what I've been put through. I think it's wrong that once you hit a problem you always end up back at the starting point & the clock gets reset again. I was sick of constantly being told surgery within 4 weeks & that was between December through to March. So in the end out of pure fear I jumped ship as I just couldn't take anymore. I would have paid for my radiation treatment also if I could have afforded that as well. Best of wishes to you with your own journey xxx