My Mum

FormerMember over 3 years ago

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My mum found out in December that she has breast cancer. Since then she has had two surgeries and has ended up now having to start 6 months of Chemo. She's a tough cookie, my mum. She's seen her older sister go through it and survive and her mum (my grandma) have multiple types of cancer and sadly pass.

I know she doesn't want me to worry, but I am also in my early 20s and she is in her 60s and I am an only child. Balancing my emotions of starting working life, social life as well as dealing with this kind of heartbreak is so much tougher than I imagined. I am straying strong for my mum and also my dad but I eventually broke down to my partner this week about it after bottling it up for so long.

My mum and me live in different cities, but sometimes I feel so far from her.

Even though I know so many people go through this everyday I feel so alone with my feelings. I've talked to my partner and my friends but some things I just don't want to talk about. Knowing my mum will be really ill soon breaks my heart.

I just kind of want to find people going through the same thing.

Thanks

Northerner over 3 years ago

Hi sorry you find yourself on here but welcome .
Feel free to come on here to get answers and support lots of both here . Lots of different threads but this one may be of help .

Your family and friends are doing their best but on this thread you can connect with people with same experience and feelings

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/family-and-friends-forum/

hope this helps

One step at a time and ...Breathe !

xoxox

Margaret

FormerMember over 3 years ago

Hi, I literally just joined this morning and posted a similar post. I feel exactly the same. I know shes getting the right care and help from the docs etc but i am so worried about her. I cry every day and im not a sad person i'm so happy and bubbly normally i feel like a different person inside it's awful. My mum is alot stronger than me and is being much braver than me. Normally i'm the stubborn strong one pulling everyone together but just now i'm a bag of nerves and sadness. I am soo sorry you are going through the same with your mum. Do you have a good support network?

Maxwell3 over 3 years ago

Hi EGrace,

Firstly, sending you a big hug because you sound like you need one.

It is terrible watching someone you love be poorly. I have three children one 20 and twins of 17. I found out a year ago i had bc and it broke my heart to tell them. I think that you need to find someone to talk to about your feelings even if it is the cancer helpline. A stranger may be better because you can say anything to them without having to worry about it and they will listen. It is also a good idea as already mentioned to chat to people on this website who are in the same position as you. Wishing you and your mum all the best. Keep posting it definitely helps. X

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