Hello My name is Honey & i'm 43!
I sadly find myself here surrounded by sadness of the news I have breast cancer!
Here's my story so far......
Jan 2022 I found a lump in my right breast, I left it for a couple of weeks as I thought it may of had something to do with my periods as they have been irregular. I was getting concerned as the lump was not going away & it was painful , I also kept getting shooting pains, I booked a appointment with my Dr on 4th March 22, I was then referred on the 2 week pathway referral. 8th March I went to the breast clinic who I saw a lovely Dr who was so understanding, he examined me and thought it may of been a cyst, on the same day I had mammogram & Ultrasound, Pathologist saw a small mass but was unclear of what it was, He said it's definitely not a cyst , so he took 3 Biopsies & off home I went & waited for the results.
8 days later I received a letter to go see the consultant, My heart sank & I could feel myself panicking inside! The wait was unbearable!
so on the 22nd March 22 I went to see the consultant who broke the news to me that I had a small cancer, He was very very kind & so supportive, I couldn't hold back the tears! My brother was with me as my fiance was unable to come with me due to work commitments. such a sad moment, me & my brother are so close I hated him hearing his little sister had breast cancer, broke my heart.
Dr said I have caught it early. he ordered for me to have a MRI 3T scan which I had Friday 25th March as he wants to check if it has spread & to check my other breast.
My mass is 12mm - on my Dr's notes it says the following; Grade 2-3 invasive ductal carcinoma; ER 0/8; HER2 Positive.
The mass is M1/U3 Hence the MRI
I am awaiting for a letter or phone call with an appointment to see the consultant with MRI results and i'm guessing a treatment plan!
Does anyone know what kind of treatment I would expect with HER2 Positive ?
I just can't believe this is happening, I can't quite take it in , me and my fiance are devastated!
Thank you to anyone who can help me with my questions & i'm so touched by all of your stories, it's so sad we have to go through this, glad I have found this site & hope to make some friends to not feel so alone. xx
Hi Honey
My original diagnosis letter to my GP in November said " screen detected 8mm M4 T5 U5 DCIS associated grade 2 IDC AX1"
The M/T/U scores all related to how the original then diagnostic mammograms and ultrasound looked in terms of being confident that it was BC The T is the diagnostic mammogram rather than screening one. I was told ahead of my biopsy results I had early breast cancer as they were certain.
When I had my surgery they were spot on and it was exactly as anticipated with clear sentinel node and no LVI present ( the AX1 bit)
I had one surgery 5 sessions on RT and now on Anastrozole for 5 years as my BC was very hormone receptive but HER negative. My treatment was super quick and I'm now back at work etc as my RT finished early Feb
It makes sense they want a breast MRI as your screening was not as confirming as mine yet your biopsy confirms BC so they want to be as clear as possible to formulate your individual treatment plan
Hope that helps and best wishes xx
You're welcome and I'm sorry if I may have scared you unnecessarily with the M1 explanation. It appears there are other definitions out there regarding mammography being another meaning. In my case the M1 meant it had metastases and the U meant uncertain/undetermined until further investigation. Apologies. Might be best you ask those questions of your breast cancer care nurse. They're a lifeline too as you go through these next few weeks.
I forgot to sign off with my name...though I don't mind the 'Brainy' name, lol.
I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts as you start this journey, particularly as you have other health issues to consider. Your consultant/surgeon will take all of this into consideration and may get in contact with your gall bladder surgeon to discuss options at your request.
Sending peaceful thoughts and hugs .
Kathryn x.
When you're going through hell, don't stop!
Also meant to say I sympathise re gallstones as I had them 10 years ago and the relief after having it removed was huge. I too lost weight (1 stone in 6 weeks) as couldn't eat and ended up paying privately as my op was cancelled twice.
Incidentally shoulder pain can be associated with gallstones as there is a phrenic nerve that runs to your right shoulder blade I understand . Not sure if that's the shoulder you have problems with but I'd been having shoulder pain for some time and never connected the two until it was explained to me!
Please don't worry Brainy, I'm grateful for your response, there is all kinds of different terminology you didn't worry me I wouldn't want you to think you had xx
sending hugs your way xx
Thank you for Information & yes that helps a lot being able to chat on here had made me feel much clearer. xx
This may help for clarification, and as you generate your questions with your next appointment with your consultant, or as I said before, seek clarification before your next appointment by phoning your BC care nurse. Mine always encouraged me to call with any questions or concerns I had, and sometimes still do have, from time to time.
When you're going through hell, don't stop!
Hi Honey please dont feel alone we are all here for you sweetheart, it's a horrible horrible thing to sit there with the dr and hear you have Breast cancer I shook for a hour.. driving home on my own was horrendous I kept saying iv got cancer.. then I thought how the hell am I going to tell my only son! But I did and we cried together and that was that. Since that he has been soo supportive andamazing and is coming to see me on my 65th birthday from Newcastle I live in Norwich. My time of diagnosis was similar to your.. I woke up on Christmas morning with a totally inverted nipple so I knew something wasn't right I was diagnosed on 2 February and have already had my Masectomy and reconstructive surgery on 23rd March and honestly hand on heart it was not as bad as I thought it was going to be and I'm recovering really well
my lovely friend of 17 years was also diagnosed 5 days after me and we are fighting this together, she is only 40 with 3 daughters and she has a 6 month old 1st grandson.she is having a double Mast
tomy on 5th April and I'm there for her every step of the way. You will find friends and family a Absolutely wonderful support and they will get you through this I promise.
Not brave at all, trying to stay positive, most days feel like I pretend it's not happening. Can do that on 'good days'. Meltdown last night, couldn't sleep with all the 'what ifs' in my head. Brighter again today, try to stay busy, difficult in retirement!! X
I've had a similar diagnosis grade 2 invasive ductal cancer Er+HER2+. I've had the MRI and am waiting to see oncology. No timeline on this so im just sat around waiting and worrying about it all. What's the normal time wait for this? Been told l need a ct scan but they are very busy ,also need a clip? put on the tumour before l have chemo and I'll have surgery further down the line after chemo. Two weeks prior to this l was told it would be a lumpectomy and radiotherapy so feel pole axed by the change in plan
The 'clip' is a marker so they can find the lump if it shrinks a lot, and/or to assist surgeon to locate easily in surgery. X Jo
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