Hi all

Mine was initially Grade 3, Ductal, 19mm, Oestrogen and HER2 positive, unfortunately which means I have to start Chemo, Radiotherapy, Herceptin injections for a year then onto Anastrazole tablets for several years to prevent recurrence. I am lucky that they got clear margins and not spread to Sentinel lymph nodes, now downgraded to Grade 2, following my lumpectomy. I am the same, forget for a while if I'm busy then remember in disbelief and well up again 

Sorry you find yourself here. I remember well the feeling of “but I don't feel sick” and even now, a year on, I do tend to forget I've had cancer. I guess it's a way of coping.  I also felt a lot better when I had a clear treatment plan, so wishing you luck with that next week.

Hi there

I have also received the same diagnosis last week,  invasive grade 3 breast cancer,  they did lymph node biopsy as there was thickening at initial breast clinic scans - but fortunately that came back clear.   I have a date for lumpectomy at end of this month as receptors came back HR + but HER2 -

I have three children, and also work.  I have only told my manager who has been very supportive (I told her from outset that was going for test etc).  I haven’t told my children as they are quite young,  was going to tell them after op. 

im completely with you on forgetting I’m ill as I don’t feel it,  to then getting hit with a wave of sickness when I remember what’s happening.  Its very surreal xx 

Thank you so much - great to know I am not losing the plot! I am bizarrely more concerned with my knee injury which actually hurts and seems like something that actually needs fixing. But I do realise I am probably slightly avoiding the issue...

just waiting for receptor test results. Can't have lumpectomy as have two extensive areas in one breast, so it all has to go. not sure what that means for reconstruction, so I guess thats my homework reading before my Thursday appointment.

told our two children (age 8 and 10) and they haven't really got a clue what it really means and will entail, which is nice in a way. Keeping positive currently

Thank you - will wait for Thurs and I am sure the next steps will make it real. Hope you are okay too. One year on seems a long way away currently!

Oh I completely get it;  but every ache and pain is really amplified atm,  I feel pain in my back so convinced it’s spreading - as 24th March seems ages away.   But you should probably get your knee looked at.

I guess you might have chemo first depending on receptors then…..  How are you feeling about Thursday’s appointment?? If you are like me you just want to know your treatment plan so can focus on that.   Is cancer in your family??  

In a way I wonder if I’m just giving myself longer to process things and just pretend things are fine for a bit longer before telling my children; I have a  6 year old son and 9 & 13 y o daughters.  I’m not in denial,  I just feel a bit overwhelmed and want to cling on to normality  - hence why still working (I only work p/t).   Are you planning on trying to work through treatment???  Xx 

hiya - telling the kids wasn't as bad as I was expecting, but then I don't have a 13 year old, but I am quite liking the part denial, part forgetting about it displacement activity! I am so busy at work, so that's sort of easy to do. I work f/t and currently planning to continue to work but will just listen to my body and needs as and when, good advice given from a friend.

Hope your 24th meeting gives you the certainty you need. I've only got till tomorrow now, so reality will kick in shortly. Fingers crossed,

Sorry for delay in responding - but the font size reading the eamil from this site on my phone is miniscule...so have put off till the evening and have laptop in front the the log fire...

Positive vibes for today xxx