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I'm so sorry you are going through this.  You are grieving the pre cancer life you had and the loss of your partner.  Are you angry at your cancer, do you blame it for your partner leaving?  I think you might find it helpful to reach out to Macmillan helpline to see if there's any counselling or support groups near to you where you could talk through your feelings xx

Wow, I’m so sorry for you, what a totally horrible situation you’re in. It’s very different I know but my partner of 32 years left me for someone else and just over a year later I was diagnosed with cancer. I was still reeling from my relationship breaking down, I really struggled to cope. It is hard to be alone in this situation, especially if he has been a good support to you. You have an awful lot to get your head around. I agree with Grogg that Macmillan can help with counselling and that has been invaluable to me, I started counselling before I was diagnosed with the cancer but it’s been incredibly helpful. It’s going to be very hard for you to focus on looking forward, I get that, some days I struggle to do that too, but you have your 11 year old and yourself and you’ll get through this, as painful as it may be. I still struggle to not think about my ex daily but I try and counter it with the positives about him not being here at this time, at least I only have me and my daughter to consider and there’s a lot to be said for that. Plus, you know I read something, if he is stupid enough to leave you, you should be smart enough to let him go, I spent a long time with someone who didn’t really want me, it doesn’t do you a lot of good. Big hugs to you, and so sorry your experiencing all of this at once xx 

Thank you  Anna12345 for sharing your story with me.  I am so sorry to hear of your situation,    It sounds like you have been through it yourself and I will take what you and Grogg have said on board with regards to Macmillan and try and get some sort of counselling to get through this and to get my head straight.

Do I just call the 0800 number for Macmillan and go from there.

I complete know where your coming from with only having to think about my daughter and myself now.  And yes, I need to let him go !! 

Thank you so much for your time and kind, useful words.

Take care and all the best with your situation. xx

Just don’t judge yourself harshly, you need to grieve that relationship and that will take you time. Yes just ring the 0800 number and go from there. They’ll ask why you’re ringing and it’s usually that point I start crying despite not having cried at all up to that point xx