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Bless you, it's such a hard thing to get our heads round. We have our life's plans all set out and then we are hit with a steam train. I had breast cancer in 2012, and again in 2021. Had surgeries and reconstruction. I'm now on the chemo bus, and then I will get off at the other end and march on with my life.

I totally panicked this second time, and like you could not get to grips with it all, but like you say it's very treatable. Cling on to the positives. This is a blip, not a nice one I will admit, but when you reach the other end, life will feel so much sweeter. 

Me and my partner lived with a very carefree, do what we wanted when we wanted, traveled and have packed so much into our time. Life really is for living, so focus on how many bus stops until you can ring that bell, and then live your wonderful life that's waiting for you.

Just remember the bad days don't last forever

Thank you. Yes it’s hit me really hard with the suddenness of it all. I was told the diagnosis was likely 5 days before Christmas and then it was confirmed early January so it’s been a bit of a terrible time and I have ended up having to deal with it by keeping my head a little in the sand and just taking things in a bit at a time. 
I have 5 chemo cycles left, then there will be a single mastectomy and then radiotherapy so it will be a rubbish few months but I will get there… 

It’s just the horrible negative thoughts that I keeping getting - will I REALLY be ok, stuff like that, which annoys me and I can’t stop from happening… and then when my hair started coming out today I think that set me back… but it’s not forever, the chemo treatment will be over in 3 months and I just need to get on with it I guess! 

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I am new to forum. Just diagnosed with bresst cancer about 2 weeks ago and to meet Oncologist on Monday to get date for 1st Chemo.

Going through all the emotions and struggle some days and very tearful. Like you told it's very treatable and know its a tough year ahead there is no option.

Hope you get through your treatment okay and will have a lovely wedding to look forward to.

Take care and stay strong, we can get through this xxx

Love your positive attitude I try and live my life the same and this hit me like a ton of bricks.

Will just take a year all be it a tough year and get back to living. Although hoping in between chemo cycles will have days when I feel well enough to do stuff.

Hope the rest of your treatment goes well.

Thank you for sharing this. Take care xxx

We can get through this. I have teary moments all the time but I just remember what they said about it being treatable, that it will be a crappy year, but then life can carry on! And actually life is still carrying on now.. this 3rd week after the first session has been fine and I’ve been out walking and seen friends and managed to live “normally”… 
When you get the start date for your treatment you’ll definitely feel slightly better as then there’s a “plan” in place and you have something to count down…. 
It will be a rubbish time but better days are coming and we WILL get through this xx

Thanks your words are encouraging and helps me a lot. Know time passes quick and I will make the most of the good days..

Take care and we will stay strong together xxx

What a rotten hand you’ve been dealt! So sorry your wedding has been disrupted. Although, you probably have dealt with it better than you think! Probably much the same as many of the rest of us. It’s processing it and coming to terms with it that are most difficult, I found it was like a nightmare I couldn’t wake up from, very down in the dumps, then I decided I didn’t want to live with this mindset and had to give myself a talking to; I wasn’t going through it alone had lots of support  and didn’t have many other worries apart from this. I found that surrounding myself with people and chatting helped me crawl out of the rabbit hole in my head…. So I had my mastectomy in December and have just had my first chemotherapy yesterday, I was given the idea that I may not need chemo, so that was another blow. Anyway, it wasn’t so bad. I get the impression that you’re younger and I imagine the younger you are the more difficult to come to terms with. But you’ll get there, you have to. As for the mastectomy, I found that quite straightforward and surprisingly not very painful at all. (Although I think a reconstruction takes longer to heal, but it’s worth it) There’s no way to put a cheery slant on it, but I always tell myself that things could always be worse. You’re going to get through this. They don’t tell you its very treatable if it’s not! I’m sure your wedding will be a massive celebration, it’ll be here before you know it. Best of luck on your journey, I make sure I take days off from thinking about it to clear my head between appointments etc, it’s not alway easy to do, but it helps. Again, best of luck, stay strong  x