17th December had a tumour removed and a lymph node biopsy, still waiting for the results. Everyone says don't panic, it's treatable, the cancer has been removed and any further surgery is prevententative. I get what they are saying but here and now it really doesn't help.
Don't lift the turkey out of the oven they said....don't do any stretching,....start your home physio.....relax.....eat well...sleep....I really do get it and every opportunity I have I do what they say....but.....
My husband has severe anxiety and depression, for the day of surgery I had to have a plan B and C in place in case he couldn't take me - he stepped up bless him and got me there and picked me up.
My daughter said I'm coming to help look after you mum, how lovely, I'm so lucky to have her. She suffers with borderline personality disorder and functional neurological disorder which clash when 5imes are difficult.
Christmas day my husband was having a bad way...no I didn't lift the turkey out of the oven but pretty much did everything else.
Boxing Day, my husband went to see his family and I was left at home with my daughter, I was so pleased until her functional neurological disorder set in, then I had to prepare dinner once again.
My daughter has now gone home.
I love them both so much but am finding it so difficult to find time to recover and rest. I am hoping that now my daughter has gone home things might get easier, but my husband is a long way from getting better.....it's New Years Eve and I'm sat here on my own.
How do you cope with getting better when circumstances don't allow you to. I'm exhausted!
Hi Ladyrovermuppet I am sorry to read your post, that sounds really difficult. Coping with close family member's mental health issues is challenging enough at the best of times so I can understand how exhausted and worried you must be. I agree with Greycats in terms of prioritising and I'd suggest letting things like housework slip and keeping food really simple. I also wonder if you have friends and family who offer to help, in which case say yes to the support.
We can all only do what we can and take one day at a time. Don't forget you can pop on here for support at any time and the Macmillan team are in the phone or the chat for advice when you need it.
Best of luck for your results and your recovery.
