Hello newbie here

Hello. You've got what I had. Click my name to read my tale. I just took and still take it one day at a time. Not gonna lie, its been tough nit just physically but emotionally too but I've met some lovely people on here who've given me kind words, encouragement and handy tips. Good luck x

Tired Minion is right. I personally have relied so much for support from all the lovely ladies here. Make me feel less alone on this journey.

I think don't be pressured to tell friends or family. Take your time to process things as you're in shock and prob experiencing all different emotions! Till you are ready, and you will know when, then speak up. 

My surgery is next Tuesday. And may be when you have a date then it will make things more real for you, enough to rally support from your loved ones.

Life as we know it will not be the same...filled with  various worries and appointments and taking on new medical linguo! However everyone else's lives remain unaffected...something you have to come to terms with. I have had a few friends who just ignored me.

But look on the positives. For me...I fight back to see my child grow up, to see us build out lovely home and for my partner who is the love of my life. Keep that focus to get you thru each stage.

All the best

C x

Hello, definitely the club no one chooses to join.  I found the whole journey from finding a lump to having a mastectomy a whirlwind as it happened so quick, lump found end of July and surgery 13th September, the waiting for results from biopsies I found the worst and it was a relief when they confirmed my diagnosis (although this did change following surgery) and treatment. I think I went into auto pilot and just took what ever was thrown at me and you will probably surprise yourself and others as to how strong you can be through this. As Tired minion said it  is tough physically and emotionally but take each day as it comes and you will get through it. X

thank you. It’s reassuring that there’s someone out there with the same thing, hopefully we can chat more as I go through it x

Thank you, that’s good advice. I hadn’t really thought of that aspect that life will become so medicalised. I realise now that when my friend went through it she either shielded us from all the information or we were obliviously caught up in our own lives, probably both. 

Wishing you all the best for Tuesday x

Advice for getting through:

As already mentioned, take one day at a time.

Have confidence in your BC team to do their very best for you and your individual BC experience.

When faced with the treatments, think to yourself, if that is the price of life, I can do that and it is only for a while.

Keep a notebook and jot down any questions or problems that you want to talk through with your care team at your next visit.

Use this forum to the max - there is always someone around who will have been through whatever you are going through.

If you need to, don't hesitate to use the helplines - that is what they are there for.

Keep hydrated and eat as healthily as you can.

Take the small joys from life every day e.g. [the colour of the autumn leaves, a sunbeam etc] and say to yourself, "I'm still here", it could be worse.

Try to walk or do something with people every day

Hug the ones you are with - often

WallyDug

Not a problem. Was replied to with such kind words and help when I joined and so if my experience can help others then I'll help others. You can also tag people by typing @ then name so it pops up on their feed. Once you have your date, it should help to feel more in control. The waiting and not knowing next steps can be frustrating so make sure you've got plenty of things to distract you - books, tv, hobbies, walks etc. Keep going x