Hi I have never chatted online before but it is good to talk I had a mastectomy and lymph node removal 2020. When diagnosed I thought well I will just have to get on with it. How wrong was I. It isn’t the operation it’s the after effects physically and emotionally that your body and mind go through. I had chemotherapy that caused a complication with my hands towards the end. Then I had herceptin injections which were fine for me. I was given letrozole tablets to take as my cancer was HER2 positive. To be honest reading all your letters has given me reassurance because I thought I was losing my mind. Lack of sleep joint pain back pain hot flushes which I never experienced when I went through the menopause (I am 69) weight gain and now depression. Also had a visit to A and E with a reaction to another medication. I agreed to have counselling (thought I was made of tougher stuff) which helped with some issues and now I have asked my GP for short term antidepressants to help with the mood swings and help me sleep. What brought this to a head was my wound opened a tiny bit (just like a small blister)and took 5 months to heal so for 5 months I could not wear a bra. When I finally got a prosthesis and my wound healed with the dedication of the district nurses the whole process just hit me and I couldn’t stop crying. I have great support from the NHS everyone has been wonderful and I could not have gotten through this without the wonderful dedicated nurses. After reading your letters I realised it wasn’t just me feeling this way. I am having a 10 day break from the letrozole(and I have to say I do not have backache) but I definitely will continue with this tablet or a further make as they are important. I will continue to read your letters and keep picking myself up when I feel down. I think we are all made of tougher stuff to go through this.
PS I have had different food cravings over the past year as well ginger cake was the worst.
Ninian
Hi Daisy53 thank you for your reply
that is really good news that you are in remission. I could not have radiotherapy as my wound was not fully closed. At first you feel as if you are on this journey alone. After reading other comments I felt reassured and it is great to hear you have come through this. Best wishes for the future
Ninian
Oh no what a journey you have been on. The menapause is just added troubles, and at 54 I'm in the thick of it.
Keep posting to the site and take all the help and support available, like you I thinK I'm made of tough stuff had a few life knocks and bumps to deal with, but I'm sure at some point it will come crashing down x
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thank you for your message. Being able to chat to someone who is facing similar problems is reassuring. I have no family or relatives to chat to but I have wonderful friends who have been there for me and we have actually found things to laugh at for instance the crazy wig I purchased when my hair fell out. Teddy bear is wearing it now. The laughter has kept me going and they have been there to take me to emergency appointments. I know when life knocks occur you think oh no I can’t face another problem on top of my cancer but we do we keep going because we are stronger than we think. Finding this site to read all the comments has really helped me. At one point what may happen in the future really bothered me now I just look from week to week. I wish you all the best for the future
Ninian
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