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Hi Roche

I feel for you. You are certainly having a multiple whammy with the BC returning in 2018, the positive BRCA result, the impending treatment the unsympathetic kids and the husband.

I think you need to share this information with your care team (maybe your GP, Specialist Nurse, Oncologist etc} and ask if there is somewhere [NHS, charities, churches] that they can refer you or signpost you, so you can get help to enable you to cope.

What you have to deal with is an awful lot for one person to deal with alone. You will see from this McMillan site that people find it bad enough coming to terms with BC alone, even with supportive family networks.

Please ask for help.

Sending you big virtual hugs and extra strength to help you.

Wallydug

I’m so sorry for you getting all this at once, mine was the other way, hubbie and partner of 32 years (20 married) left me for a younger woman first then I got the breast cancer. I thought I’d never get through it but here I am, my decree absolute is still not here but it’s imminent. You need massive support though, get a counsellor fast if you can afford one, Macmillan can help otherwise and talk to your friends if you can. and as Wally dug suggests share with your go and care team. I really didn’t think I could cope but despite everything I am stronger now than I was, you don’t realise how much being with someone who doesn’t love you damages you deeply until you’re a bit past it and then you think, Christ! Why didn’t I see that. 

Now I may be having chemo, facing double mastectomy and on my own with a 12 year old but I am oddly happier. He on the other hand is full of regrets. Forward lovely lady, one day at a time, one hour at a time when you can’t manage a day, and keep talking, to your friends, to us xx massive hugs xx

Hi Roche

Sorry to hear what you’re going through. You’ve certainly been through the mill. Try keeping yourself busy if you can and do the things that you love doing.

Wishing you the best of luck with your operation.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Good for you! x

Seek Macmillan support. You may be better off without him if he is so shallow that he can't support you. Your children will probably come round as they are bound to be in shock.

Take one day at a time and do whatever it takes to get through this.

Good luck. x