Hi, I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the start of April, I am 46 years old. I had my third round of chemo last Thursday- 3 down and 3 to go. I have been reading through a lot of your posts and everyone is so informed about their type, stage and grade of cancer. I know mine is stage 1, grade 3. I know in my folder the type is written down but I am too scared to look at it and read about it. I have an 8 year old daughter and an amazing husband (who does get annoyed with me if I feel down) and it breaks my heart that they are going through this with me. So far I have been so positive about everything but sometimes I just want to sit and cry. Normally I ask questions about everything but I’m too scared to ask about this. Maybe I should be reading or asking more- I just don’t know! So confused about everything. Just want this treatment over and done with. Sorry if I sound like I am moaning! xxx
Thank you Melon Mash.
Good luck tomorrow and all the best for your surgery on Thursday. Xxx
Thank you Daisy53.
It’s all tough to digest at times and I just cannot believe how many people are going through this.
Best wishes to you too. Xx
Hi Rainbowsun,
I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the start of March. I am 44 and also am stage 1 and grade 3. I have had a lumpectomy and am starting chemo next week. I am worried about the side effects and how I am going to be because I have a 7 year old and a 3 year old. Just wondered how you find the chemo? I know everyone is different, just worried about my children. I am trying to be positive and strong but have down days and a good cry does make me feel better. Letting it all out can be good.
Hi Pink Polly
Sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with cancer and welcome to the site.
I was diagnosed with grade 3 Triple Negative Breast Cancer last September and 8 cycles of chemo. While I won't say chemo is easy it is at least doable. I had a few side effects but nothing too daunting. The worst for me was losing my hair after my second cycle of chemo, but I got my mother to shave my hair and wore turbans whenever I went out. I soon got used to being bald.
It's understandable that you are worried about your children while you are undergoing chemo. The oncology nurses are all very kind and helpful and will do everything in their power to make sure you have few side effects from your treatment. They'll give you medication to help with the side effects after you have your first treatment and for all your following treatments.
Wishing you the best of luck with your treatments and take care.
Best wishes
Daisy53
Hi Pink Polly.
I am glad you said having a good cry makes you feel better because that was me this morning. My daughter went to school and I just couldn’t hold it in and I do feel much better now.
I am having 6 chemo treatments and then surgery. The first 3 have been ok- I felt ok the day of the treatment and day two. My head just felt fuzzy / dizzy days 3, 4 and 5 and then back to normal again. However this morning my throat / glands seem a bit swollen but no temperature so just keeping an eye on that. I have continued working from home which has been a great distraction for me. I have felt more tired than usual but I do push myself to go out for a walk everyday. So really so far so good. But for my last 3 treatments the drug combination is changing and I have been told they can be much tougher than the first 3.
It is a case of just getting through it but it is tough. And you sound like me that you worry for your children. Please stay in touch and let me know how you get on. Xxx
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