I'm really struggling at the moment. Was diagnosed with breast cancer in October. Had surgery, radiotherapy and am now having chemo for 5 years. My dad died 2 weeks after my diagnosis and my husband was made redundant. My son is suffering from mental health issues and he is most of the time skint (he owes me 2 grand) with all the covid stuff. I feel like my husband doesn't realise what I've been through because he couldn't come to any of my appointments. I feel like we have nothing left between us when we've meen married for 32 years this month. Is this normal or am I going mad so sorry for the rant but don't know what is going on anymore. I have gone back to work before I am ready because I was only on half my wages.
Hi Jan
I am so sorry you are going through such an awful time - my sister in law died from breast cancer the week before my mastectomy so I know how awful grief is when you are in dealing with BC as well. As for your family issues I really have no experience but maybe counselling as a family or couple might help? i would like to offer more support but I am not sure. I spoke to my GP and got referred to the mental health team, I have yet to have an appointment - its next week, but maybe try that at least they can talk through your feelings and options.
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